How old were you when you first asked a question about the difference between what you heard in church and what you saw people doing?
I was about 3 or 4 years old and at some sort of wake or funeral reception. There were lots of people crying. One woman, in particular, was dressed in black, seated and a focus of attention. I saw lots of people go up to her and say things like “he’s in a better place now”, “he’s in heaven now” and “he’s with God”. I was terribly confused because we were being taught in Sunday School that heaven and God were wonderful and we should all want to go to heaven. I finally asked my mother why everyone was crying when they should be happy that he was in heaven with God. There was a collective gasp of horror and I was quickly hustled away and punished.
I was 6, 8 years old when I started asking myself questions about religion, but only around the age of 14 did I came out of the "closet" in regards to being an atheist to my family. Some of them took me seriously, some didn't.
But one of the questions that I first had was about adultery.
 andlrb
                                                
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                                        That was an interesting place to start.
@pixiedust oh, definitely.
In sunday school we were taught how cheating is wrong and you should always love your husband / wife but then we would hear about stories regarding church members that cheated so many times. Lets just say that drama was at a very high level in our church when I was a child. So then, I started wondering "If they cheat, and God says you shouldn't or you get punished.. then why are they not getting punished?" 
I pretended my little pink baby Bible was a spell book before I could read... so...
 purcascade
                                                
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                                                    purcascade
                                                
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                                        Brilliant!
I don't know if I can pinpoint a specific age at which it occured to me but I do know that at a young age that I made the distinction between praying about something and taking action to change or actually help with a problem. It never made sense to me why we would just ask a guy in the sky to help people when if we actually cared we would do it ourselves, that's why religion to me has always been fake and a really weak excuse people put in place to justify their inaction towards the problems of others and the world in general, God is the easiest scapegoat to blame for you not actually caring about Shit.
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                                                    Eric_in_bham
                                                
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                                        A "let's do it" attitude is a great way to forge ahead - much better than prayerful passivity.
I was sent to Sunday school a lot of weekends, but I was taken by different people, belonging to different denominations of christianity. Somewhere, I learned that people died, were buried, and would be risen with the 2nd coming of christ. So, yeah, deaths were a confusing affair, since everyone was always going on about the dead person being in heaven now. It seemed the adults were consoling themselves with a convenient lie.
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                                                    GinaMaria
                                                
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                                        Sounds as if you had a colourful and diverse, if confusing, childhood.
I had have been between 10-11. I got ridiculed for the question by my mom.
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                                                    Ashxoleyxo
                                                
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                                        I'm sorry you encountered ridicule. I'm glad you continued to question and finally found your way here 
my mother was not religious so i didn't have to deal with it at home, but i was sent to Catholic school from kindergarten to 8th grade. So for me it was when i was 8 yrs old i started questioning and around 10 yrs old i was bold asking "is there a god?" at school they didn't like that to much. ???
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                                                    Psycho_Sammie
                                                
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                                        I bet they didn't like that, you precocious little genius! 
I was probably around 10. I had to do the every other weekend thing with my dad and stepmother and we always went to church on Sunday. I would watch how different she acted around the church people and compare it to the complete witch she would be otherwise and I started thinking what a hypocrite she was. It was the very first nail in the coffin of religion for me.
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                                                    Alliegirl
                                                
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                                        Life lessons from the Wicked Witch of the West! I, too, found it amazing how people's behaviour changed even as soon as they were outside the church.
I never did. I just thought I was missing something that everyone else "got"...until I realized the reverse was true. Don't remember how old I was when that finally crystalized for me.
The way I was raised (even with Catholic school!!), religion was pretty well sepearate from "the rest of life".
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                                                    stinkeye_a
                                                
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                                        It's so freeing when you finally realize "It's not me", isn't it?
Probably around 5 when Catholic mass and Sunday school became obligatory. My brother and I didn’t buy the ridiculous bible stories, nor the rituals. We often said we needed to go to the bathroom to duck out until it ended.
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                                                    Marz
                                                
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                                        LOL. They probably wondered what you were eating for breakfast before you got to church 
When my sisters could drive they would take me to their friends houses and immerse me in sin and smoking weed when we were supposed to be at church. I thank my sisters every day for bringing me up right
As a kid I was asked to leave many a time, and my parents were asked not to bring me back because I asked questions. I was a kid that wanted to know and these people were so indoctrinated that they had no answers. Was I bad for asking a question they could not answer or were they to blame for not being able to answer it?
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                                                    zorialoki
                                                
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                                        They were to blame. Your curiosity immunized you against their brainwashing.
That's a very pertinent question!!
My example is a little dark. It was when I was a teenager and discovered that married senior members of the church were having affairs with girls my age.
I'm deliberately using the plural because this happened more than once.
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                                                    Strabo
                                                
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                                        That is dark and, sadly, not unusual.