When I was younger, I always ended up in relationships through my friend group. Now all the women roughly my age are married, and the only women I've met are considerably younger (it's a long story why that is) and while we're friends, it's obviously not leading to a relationship. I don't know how to meet women my age, who are of the same mindset. I've tried other dating sites with no luck. And while I've found like-minded women here, they're either too far away or not interested. Guess I'll just have to wait on dumb luck.
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Don't overlook your married women friends! Put out the word that you're actively looking for a relationship. I suspect they'll try to help!
LucyLoohoo
Level 9
July 23, 2018
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Yes,good idea, they may have someone just right for you,but as we get older,the chances for a good match lessen with time.......
@Mike1947 Happily married women seem COMPELLED to share that happiness with single friends. 
If you put out the word...I guarantee you'll get some help! Best of luck..I genuinely understand your dilemma.
@LucyLoohoo Us older Widowers and divorced Men seem to wonder,will we find happiness again in our lives? The dating sites are rife with scammers,I'm not going to join a Church group and be swarmed by divorcees and widows. What's a fairly healthy 71 years old man to do? Wife died 10 months ago(lung cancer),still get tears now and then....
@Mike1947 I'm very sorry for your loss, Mike...believe me, I understand! Your life changed unexpectedly (or possibly, you saw it coming but didn't realize how profound the change would be.)
When my husband died (COPD..almost 18 years ago) I realized I'd never lived alone! Unsure if I could do it or even WANTED to do it, I stuck a toe in and began thinking about who I wanted to be and how I wanted to live. I could stay awake all night and sleep all day...read books all day long....eat at 2am....entertain in my home or ignore the phone for days. Organized my space, tossed a LOT of junk, hired two wonderful cleaning ladies to keep me honest, etc. I found some great volunteer opportunities and made new friends there, plus feeling good about ''giving back." (We MUST keep busy, Mike, or we die!)
You'll do these things...or possibly you've already done somethings similar. Realize that you're stronger than you think and that your life experience will make you more interesting than you were at 20! Realize, too, that you're embarking on a new adventure!
Since you're interested in making new friends (don't go for LOVE right away, please...it's scary and we make mistakes that way) you should consider putting out the word to your married friends and see what happens. Who knows? You might make a movie friend, a dog-walking friend, a farmers' market shopping friend and more. You might meet more new friends through them.
It took me a LONG time to decide I'd test those dating ''waters'' myself and it was hard at first but I began to learn how to date again and now...I'm very happy with a partner. YOU CAN DO THIS!
Didn't mean to run on...but...I really do understand. Happy to help with this, if you need to talk.
I've read when you are not actively looking,love will find you,so I dunno? Is there any truth to this "Fable"??[agnostic.com]
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Mike1947
Level 7
July 23, 2018
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I know that it seems when you're actively looking, nothing happens, and when you don't care, it does. But I think that's just because when you're looking, things drag and it just seems like forever.
@tnorman1236 Yes,a "Time Expansion Vortex", observing the second hand of the analog clock take a full(seems like)hour to circle the dial,instead of 60 seconds.
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