I have often been told I am robotic or cold due to logical thinking. The reality is, for me, my love is in the things I do to make life easier for my partner. I got two jobs to make the financial burden less. I had your lunch ready the night before so you could sleep in. I often feel like emotional expression is reactionary and surface level where be logical expression of love is well thought out.

But some people require to be told they are desirable. Some people require flowers and handwritten notes and I think it just takes communication and understanding in order to have lasting love between people like me and that.

No, I think you are just overthinking everything. I am a lifelong freethinker so by definition use logical thought, however I am also fully in touch with my emotions and believe I am a warm and empathetic person. We are all mixtures of things and we are all different. Don’t let anyone put a label on you, you are the one who knows you best, it is probably just in your genetic make up not to be particularly good at expressing your emotions. Men sometimes find this harder to do than women too so that could be a factor.

What you need is a sense of humor...about Yourself.

I "suffer" from the same problem. I tend to be logical, like Spock

One's emotional affect has little inherently to do with intellectual depth. I have known simpletons with flat affect, too.

Rather, I think that some people are heady precisely because they are emotionally withheld ... it encourages them to live more in their head. I think your S.O.s have the causal chain backwards, and even then, it doesn't always work that way. Humans are complicated.

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