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This is me at 46 and my late husband at 35 at the bottom of this story. It was the most unlikely relationship. We met when I was transfered to the park he had always worked.

He was 11 years younger, never been married, nor hardly dated. He lived like a mad scientist, with experiments and specimens in every corner of his ranger cabin.

He was the most radical conservationist I had ever seen, never wasted one thing, rarely spent money. He had a masters in biology, was part Cherokee Nation, and collected motorcycles.(1)Indian (2)Harley-D. (7)Triumphs

As a ranger he dealt with the park wildlife, safety, and security. Danny was unlike any man I ever met. I knew love when I saw it.

My responsibilities were the park recreation, which is managing fun and games, camps, sports, pools special events, and the budget to support those recreation activites plus reservations.

We were like day and night.

From the very beginning, we wanted to be together. It felt so right. We married at the park and bought our own nice large home on a lake nearby to retire.

It had taken me 15 years from my last boyfriend, while working with hundreds of other men in our field, to find this love.

The second year of our marriage my husband became ill with his type 1 diabetes. In denial, he continued alcohol and carbs. His behavior became wild, at times I feared him.

Third year he died in bed with me. I couldn't compress his heart enough to bring him back. His weight was 325 pounds. His heart was through living. He was creameated and taken home to the Cherokee Reservation.

Three years is better than no years. It's been 23 years since he died. And that long since I even kissed. My memories about him bring a smile and a tear. I think I was a lucky woman to have three years with him.

@sweetcharlotte

sweetcharlotte 8 Sep 5
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Some people leave indelible marks on our heart, that we'll carry forever ...

How fortunate that you both had this time together !

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Charlotte what a bittersweet story. A love like that is a rarity, but you are still a relatively young woman and have a lot of love still to give. I do hooe you find another man to love and who will love you back, maybe he is right here on this site, you never know. You are too pretty and young at heart to go to waste.

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I admire your attitude to celebrate the 3 years!

@sweetcharlotte weird...have a great time together, then suddenly he vanishes for a couple days. Seems to think because he has ED (medication) I must be ready to reject him. I do not give a FF, would adore a bit of hand-holding though, but he does not hear me. Suggestions?

@sweetcharlotte I have, both humorously & seriously...he continues to worry/act as if is problem, or maybe that one thing will lead to another (because we are nutty teenagers with no self-control, not both 70?!?!?)
I have decided to sit back & treat him as a brother from another mother while keeping an eye out for the Next guy.....
Have No choice in the matter!

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You must still miss him. Thanks for sharing🙂

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"Three years is better than no years". I like your attitude and thought process. Cherish the memories and celebrate the time you both spent together.

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you look like a baby. I wouldnt have guessed your age

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Beautifully written. You have lovely memories.

@sweetcharlotte you are very welcome.

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I was just pouring myself a glass of red wine when i read of his condition, which is also mine. So sad . I poured it back into the botle and had water instead. I am raising my glas to your husband and you. You had three happy years. treasure thme.

@sweetcharlotte Many of my male friends have died earlier than they should have. Something about the male psyche that aliows the to ignore the clear signals their bodies give them.

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Yes, three years. I'm sorry it wasn't more.

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Oh my . So sorry.

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Oh my . So sorry.

@sweetcharlotte no just once

@sweetcharlotte I don't think so. the computer echoes sometimes though

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