For those raised in religious homes, how did you explain to your religious parent/s that you no longer subscribe to their beliefs? Did you explain? My dad raised me and my siblings in the Christian church. For years I've kept to myself how I feel about Christianity/religion. I don't want to keep it to myself any more. I'm too old to still be doing that lol. My brother is now the pastor of his own church, and I find myself avoiding him and my dad in order to avoid the preaching, and being told to pray, and to "give it to God". I'm good lol.
When I came out and I quit going to church. A couple of years ago mom's Sunday school teachers confronted me in front of my mom and I told them I no longer believed what we were tought. Their response was we will pray for you. I told them go ahead it wouldn't change things.
I slowly hinted at it until one day, my mother said that she knew I was saved and that she prayed for me every night.
I replied that I knew she was delusional.
A few months later she admitted, tearfully that she doesn't believe the bible is infallible or the word of god.
I've never felt the need to bring it up. Kind of how I think it's weird when others just bust out with their faith in god. I guess I try not to be that person on the opposite side. lol. I definitely get not wanting to feel like you're hiding it or something though.
If you are trying to be honest with them and also be respectful of how they feel maybe you could wait for a religious subject to come up again and let them know you'd like to talk more deeply about the subject.
I think the key to talking to others about our lack of faith is to remind them that you will support them having their faith and their right to believe what they do, you just don't want to pretend like you think the same anymore.
Same here. I have a very religious sister and brother-in-law and a dad who thinks this country “was built on Christianity”. I also have a passion for debating and just dropping golden nuggets of knowledge in general conversation. It’s very hard for me to keep quiet when they bring up religion.
My wife and I share the same views and we just try to smile and nod a lot of the time.
What we realized is it’s not whether who’s right or wrong, it’s simply the idea of there not being a god is so far outside of some people’s reach, that they will literally never be able to bring themselves to think that way.
They cannot open their mind far enough and step outside of all of the stories and lies they have been told throughout their life.
I was raised in a Christian home, and I have a lot of very religious family members. Some are even antiscience. I just came out right and said I was atheist. My mom didn't have an issue but my dad and his new wife have a huge problem with it. It has made any relationship with my dad strained say the least.
Faith is passion. I say, share your passion honestly, with your family. The first reaction I get when I say I don’t believe in “your god” is, what DO you believe? I think maybe there’s a fear on your, or our, side that we will let down our family and loved ones when we explain that we don’t share their faith. Then there’s the concern they may feel, that you’re lost or headed down the wrong path or something. I say, keep it honest, and let them know what you believe. Show them your passion. Let them see that you’ve found your own faith.