I have no problems at all as long as they are truly independent, nonjudgmental, and compassionate person to meet in either dating or a friendship.

I don't have any problems or preconceptions about dating moms. I'm honestly more bothered by the identification as "militant" anything. It's that sort of self identification that can prevent communication.

If I hear anyone identify themselves as a militant liberal, Christian, atheist, feminist, or anything else I assume there will soon be a fight over a slight difference of opinion that would result in a compromise or at least an agree to disagree situation with anyone else. My guess is that those who don't think you're gay enough would classify themselves a militant lesbians as well, if you understand my meaning.

I understand you may not have meant anything by it but that's just my first impression. I welcome any response or discussion.

The part that may cause me concern would be the "militant" bit. We may have different views but we should be able to agree to disagree.

I don't mind and its a responsible thing, I been single since 2004

Dated a single mom and married her. Been together for 15 years now and 4 more kids (5 with her's). So... there's still hope yet for you.

Dating a single mother is a great idea, it deals with maturity, responsibility and commitment.

I dated a woman with 2 children for 6 years. The youngest was 2 when we got together and I changes more diapers and than she did. I bonded with the boys quickly and treated them as if they were my own. Ironically, she was the one who got upset that I put the boys ahead of us. It was a toxic relationship that ended badly long before we went out separate ways, but I wouldn't leave until I knew they were safe and had someone to help her take care of them and her. Our circumstances were aggravated by a dead beat dad who didn't pay child support for a year, her mental health issues, and trying times that led to very poor financial stability. She didn't work until 8 months before we split and I wasn't making as much as I was during the first 2 years. I put the boys needs first, then hers, and lastly, my own. This did not work out very well because she didn't give two shits about my needs at all. I was supposed to work, cook, clean, help with homework, and take care of her while she played video games, called me names, and treated me like I came after her, the boys, the dog, the cats, the Xbox, and everything else. . I was unable to have children and always wanted to be a mother, so children are not a problem for me in any way, shape, or form, but I'll be more cautious to see what kind of parent a person is before I get into a relationship involving children again. The pain of losing the boys still hurts me, but I don't miss their mother...

Most gay persons have had sex at some point with the opposite sex. To me that does not define a person's sexual orientation. Peopel put too much emphasis on sex and not enough on th emotional aspect.

Personally, I define sexual orientation by the gender a person develops those emotional feelings we refer to as "falling in love" with. If they have those feelings for the opposite gender, they are straight. If with the same gender they are gay. If they are capable of falling in love with either gender they are Bi.

I am capable of having sex with both genders, but only fall in love with other men, so by my own definition that makes me gay. I dated women when I was younger, but when I realized I only fell in love with other men, I did not think it would be moral to date persons who could develop feelings for me which I could not return, so I stopped datign and having sex with women. I thought ti was the right thing to do.

So, you have a kid. There are women out there who identify as lesvian but who want families.

I think one of the down sides to beign gay is that we really have to go out of way to have kids, but without kids we don't have to really emotionally grow up ourselves and a lot of gay people like acting like children forever. I've had to deal with this "Peter pan issue" myself.

Finally, I just started to tell people it is easy to find sex partners, but really hard to find really good honest friends. I stopped having sex as often and focused my time on looking for friends instead. If I find a life partner worth having it will more likely be from my group of friends than from a random one night stand that turns into an extended relationship.

Life is a mystery

It's not something that has ever put me off in the past. Now, I think it would as I'm of an age where kids aren't what I want.

I have a friend who married a single mom recently. They are both agnostic. To me, just as important as is it how happy he is with her, I also see how important it is that he and the child (of 4yrs) have bonded. It is a beautiful thing to see them all together, and to hear how much he loves his now son.
So that is an important part of the equation. The person coming into your life should ideally come to love both you and your child(ren) as of course it's a package deal.
Militant atheist is great, fight the fight!
As a bisexual myself, though only interested in dating women, I similarly feel women might not think I'm "straight" enough (that's the advice I got from friends, and an ex) so I historically I have not mentioned that detail. It is an awkward thing to not openly mention that aspect in a relationship, because I'm told I will be considered less of a man. I am now more comfortable with who I am and I hope I can enter a relationship with all cards on the table.

First of all, don't let anyone's expectations define you. You say who you are, who you date, who can be in your life. You sound like a strong and intelligent woman. Make others respect that.

I do not mean this in any personal way against you. With that being said, I have found single moms to be toxic and full of drama and baggage. So I won't even entertain the idea of dating single moms.
And it also never helps when their profiles ALWAYS start with "I have a kid, and he/she means the world to me and she/he will always come first, so deal with it." I am with that, and I get it. But as far as dating, no. Why would any person place themselves in a situation where even before getting a chance, they already are coming in a distant second, third or even fourth. It's not worth any effort at all.

Dating as a single mother is rough, especially if the other person doesn't have kids. The atheist thing is where I struggle the most. I need someone on my side of the fence. I've dated too many people who end up telling me I can't be happy cause I don't believe in anything. aside from that being completely false, that is never the reason I'm unhappy

I would have no problem with someone being a single mum, and certainly not the atheist part since that is why I have joined this site. I would think that having your child the natural way was even more a sign that you were a better choice for companion.

I was dating as a single mom. It's difficult to juggle sometimes. I found that the other person was often put off by not getting all my attention. Red flags for days. Your responsibility to your child always comes first. If the other person can't handle that, then in the shitcan he/she goes.

All that matters is what type of person you are: kind, thoughtful, caring, curious, respectful, funny, and not whether you are already a mom. I would hope most here would have no issue with the atheist part!