Opinions wanted! Dating...
(Sorry for the lengthy post!)

So I am a fairly private person. I generally don't like the bar scene and don't like going out by myself... Though I am working on trying new things more often. I belong to a few dating sites and ran across a profile that I thought was one of the better ones I had read. Her picture was cute though not what I have typically been attracted to in the past. I usually prefer long dark hair and she had a blonde pixie cut. My best friend has been on me to try dating just for dating's sake. Typically if I go out with someone and see there couldn't be a long-term connection... I am politely honest and don't go for a second or third date. My buddy has been on me for a while to open my horizons a little... So I thought I would try.

We met a few weeks ago at a local bar on the river. Nice weather with the river rolling right by us. The conversation was interesting and she seemed very intelligent. I found that she had left home at 15, moved in with friends and when she finished high school, then spent 5.5 years working on her own to put herself through college to earn an engineering degree. She then went into the service as an officer and came out 4 years later as a Captain. She started with a government contractor where she worked for years and then a few years ago got a very good job with the government as a Program Manager. I am, of course, very impressed by her tenacity and self motivation. It is VERY refreshing!

We meet again the following week... Saturday and Sunday. Though we both talked about keeping it a "just friends" thing for now... I get back into my old ways and start wondering if this could possibly be something long term. I tell my sisters and friends about her and they are just delighted that I found someone I gel with. At this point... So am I!

I had a prior commitment to meet friends at a bar this past Saturday. A band that plays 1980's music. I am meeting 2 couples. I decide I want them to meet her so I ask if she would like to go with me. She agrees and we go out.

My friends like her and everyone is getting along famously. The band is loud, the bar is getting hot and I step outside to roll a cigarette, enjoy my beer and cool off a little. She comes out with me. I am still not sure how it came up but I mentioned something about something being a "conspiracy theory." She laughed and said she was the biggest conspiracy theorist there was. I just asked... "Yeah,, like what?" She said, "You don't think those were really planes that flew into the Twin Towers do you?" I was SHOCKED! But I just laughed and said that next she would be telling me the government controls the weather! She responded by telling me that our government knows how to steer hurricanes! My jaw dropped. Taking her more seriously at this point but still not sure if she is joking... I asked her if she thought we really landed on the moon. She said it was filmed by Stanley Kubrick. My friends came out to get us to come back in to get back to the band. The conversation was tabled for now.

At this point my mind is swirling. What the fuck? I pull my buddy aside when she goes out to the dance floor with my buddy's wife. I tell him of the conversation and he just responded with a dumbfounded look. She did? What? Really?

The night wears on and we leave. I am very uncomfortable on the ride home... And she is spending the night. She had a few too many glasses of wine and was tired so I just put her to bed and stayed up a little to pace and think.

The next morning, over coffee, I tell her I am uncomfortable. We had the "god" talk the week before. She is a christian and I am okay with that as long as she doesn't try to convert me...She is okay with me being an Atheist as long as I don't try to convert her. But I tell her that is a matter of faith... Not fact and this whole conspiracy theory thing has me very uncomfortable. She said she is uncomfortable too... Knowing what she knows. I press her for evidence of her beliefs and her response is that I must do my own fact checking. I told her that I have read about all the things she mentioned and they have been debunked. She said I needed to do more research.

To me this seems the cheap way out. I was always raised to feel free to voice an opinion... But damnit... Be ready to defend your position and debate in a civilized manner with tangible facts to prove your point.

In one of our early conversations she mentioned that one of the reasons she left home was that she didn't get along with her mom after her dad died. She said she thought her mom had some form of mental illness. Now I don't know if this girl has some form of high-functioning mental illness or she is just batshit crazy. I don't know whether it is even worth digging into see why she has these beliefs or leave before I end up at the bottom of her freezer to the right of the hamburger and the left of the frozen peas...

Thoughts?