"White men occupy the highest positions in the race and gender hierarchy.Thus, they have the power to define their own reality and that of others.This reality includes not only whose experiences are valid,but who is fundamentally valid. In the white racial frame,not all women are deemed worthy or recognition. For example,contrary to popular mythology,white women--not people of color--have been the primary beneficiaries of affirmative action. When forced to do so,white men could acknowledge white women's humanity;white women were their sisters,wives,daughters" Robin DiAngello in her 2018 book , White Fragility,why it's so hard for White people to talk about racism.