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Any swingers here?

Redcupcoffee 7 Feb 12
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In the past some. Did more poly than swinging.
I am interested in forming polyfidelity families now to live with me in my forest.
Safer, and keeps the energy and investment closer than open polyamory or swinging.

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Check out the link. Discretion is valued in the SLS community. Enjoy...

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Does polyamory count? Then yes.

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I have only done that as a third for a beautiful loving very secure couple that enjoyed my participating. I can say she was an all around lady and he was such a great pal. They are the model I follow now that I am seeking a partner.

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I'm not a swinger but I could use a NSA, FWB. 😉

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I am not a swinger, but my orientation is sometimes perceived as swinger.
Swinging being a form of non-monogamy that has strict boundaries on the emotional and sometimes physical behavior of its participants as opposed to polyamory which is non-monogamy that encourages emotional bonding and relationship.
I do not see the swinger position as realistic or healthy in the long run. Sex can be pleasurable with emotional detachment but ultimately, At least I, find it to be injurious and unsatisfying. I do not understand loving only one person, It has not been my experience in life. Imagine for instance if you were expected to only love one of your children or only one of your parents. Sex does not automatically make for an emotional attachment, But to suppress what is the normal course of human emotions seems alien to me.

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I'd be open to try it if I had some connection with the other parties. I think I am too cautious and shy to really do it well, however!

Wife any I are poly, but my dating skills are pretty bad, lol. I really think that I need some emotion involved at least, and that doesn't really go with the swinger lifestyle.

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You mean swinging on a swing: Nope, makes me nauseous. Swinging as sex with different partners ? Also makes me nauseous. SO, the answer is NO , on all counts.

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Kind of? My husband is straight and monogamous, but I am bi and poly. He doesn't mind my having additional relationships and even encourages it.

I've been fascinated with polyamory with relatively little experience exploring it in practice. A couple of dates with a woman who was engaged and very poly (and while living with a former girlfriend myself)...until she got married and it wasn't a thing any longer. It's even more rare to meet someone who's poly than meeting an open atheist! Maybe I should get out more. ?

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I west coast swing, east coast swing, lindy hop, single time and triple time swing too, also DC's own... hand dance.

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Been there , done that , ain't goin back . I talk to a lot of women with a predisposition for masculinity from time to time though , I go for that still . If she has it , I'm into it ! 😉

Dougy Level 7 Feb 12, 2018
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I haven't done it, but there's a first time for everything.

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I would never ask but I would participate if my bride wanted a try out a married man and his spouse would need to be agreeable to this form of polyamory. ....

@Redcupcoffee I am unclear about this question. ....does it mean that my hypothetical bride has the hots for a married gay man and I'm supposed to "swing" with his partner. ? While we are at this micro-parsing, I might marry a woman who wants to swing with a lesbian couple.....it's only fair for us dangling others to follow the polyamory expanding circle of swing choices

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Would love to try but have to find the right minded partner as I don't think there are single swingers ? Would a single swinger be called a Swingey? lol

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I'm not, but I'm open to hearing others' experiences.

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Yup. Have you ever been to hedonism

@Redcupcoffee go. You don't have to do anything. You can just get the gist of it and then decide in the future. I go to a ton

@Redcupcoffee there's a bunch of swinger clubs near me I go to

@Redcupcoffee Cheering you on! Be sure to let us know how it goes, should be a good story anyhow. P:

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Yes, surely Swinging should be the way.

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