I'm too ugly for anyone to recognize

Yes, I understand completely where you are coming. Trying to find your match is exhausting!

Not so much dating site fatigue as dating burn out. I've dated women I've met online, but not on dating sites. I don't know if I just attract bizarre people or if my judgment sucks, but I always manage to find the most interesting "ladies."

Different for guys?? maybe not, I did a good few months of Plenty of Fish back a few years ago, that was kind of exhausting, having to 'go out' and then finding how many levels on which 2 people can 'miss' being a match.. blahhh, it really is simpler than all that (when it's right)

Ok wow I love all this insight!

Dating-site fatigue. Yessss, this is exactly how I feel. But I didn't know how to describe it. Thank you for sharing this.

Rn, I'm too scared to try dating again. The last two "boys" were abusive. I attract abusive men. At first they seem fine for a few months. My dad messed it all up for me.

Oh, yeah.....

Hail yeah. Ha ha

I think dating site fatigue is exactly it. I'm a divorced woman with 3 cats, atheist, don't have and don't want kids. I feel like at least if I had kids I could find single men with kids at kid type stuff. Religious singles find others at religious things. Dog people have dog parks. I'm introverted to top it all off and really like hanging out at home, reading a book or going to places by myself. The only real group I belong to is a knitting group. It's pretty difficult to find a single, atheist guy that doesn't want kids under 50 years old at a knitting group.

yes, I have "virtually" given up on internet dating, and any other really. I may meet someone, but am focusing on living my life. Life is mostly good, fun, enjoyable. Could be great with a good partner.

Hell yes. I suffer greatly from dating site fatigue.

Time was when nobody had to worry about finding someone with similar views and attitudes who enjoys the same kinds of activities to be their mate--because that's not how mates were selected.

It'sonly been a few generations since that time; I don't think we've fully adapted, socially or psychologically, to this shift. If we had, we'd either have solved the "problem" of finding suitable mates under the new system, or we wouldn't have the shame and anxiety about "failing" to find a mate.

It has occurred to me, many times, that perhaps under the "new rules" (i.e. you have total freedom to be sexually and/or romantically involved--or not--with any willing person of your choosing) many people may simply not find a "suitable" mate. Certainly that seems to be the case for me.

I'm looking forward to a future in which there is less pressure to form pair bonds, and no shame if you don't.

Yes

I reached adulthood with a lot of religion-based misconceptions about men, gender roles, and altruism. I was the perfect victim the Catholic church had set out to shape me into. I had no problem finding dates or men when I believed everything they said and thought it was my place to follow their lead.

Since I developed a sense of self-worth, it's been harder.

One of many things that happened to me is I met people who stretched my comfort zone and took me to really great places I would never have chosen on my own.