Yes, funny how we have children and they turn out to want, want and want.

@Jolanta Yeah I didn't raise her that way and I wasn't raised that way, and I can truthfully say it never occurred to me for a fleeting moment to hit my parents up for anything once I left the nest. I always set "18 and out" expectations with my kids. My son never asked me for anything and in fact was very conflicted about accepting offered help from me. And both my stepchildren wouldn't be caught dead pulling a public stunt like this. So ... 3 out of 4 ain't bad I guess, and apart from this weirdness around money, my daughter acquits herself well. So I try to focus on that.

Interesting side story, we were in Greece a few years ago and our Greek tour guide, an older woman, told us that their whole culture expects elderly parents to set up their children in business / provide financing / sometimes housing and babysit their kids and even clean their homes for them. Some people just get run into the ground by their kids until they drop dead. This woman scandalized her extended family by refusing to do it with her kids. Her children have nothing to do with her. She's a pariah, and doesn't care. Good for her! But the point is ... it could be worse. I can't imagine dealing with societal pressure on top of the entitled appeals of one's own children!

@mordant Yes you are right there. We can only do our best as parents. Look at Donald, his father sent him to military school to straighten him out and even that did not help.