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Such huge changes coming for me! My marriage is falling apart, (probably for the best), I'm back in school and looking to change careers at 52, I'm looking for a new house. Jeez! I hope I can handle all of this!

Redwoman66 3 Jan 16
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Yep. The early 50s is a time of evolution and change in life's relationships. Keep the faith! [pun intended]

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Thst old saying if you think you can or can't ...you are right! So just think you can and it Will be all right!

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I've been there. You'll be fine. Spend time with people who bring you strength and laughter.

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I bet you can! It may appear overwhelming looking at everything combined as a whole as if it were to happen all at once, but in reality all of those changes take time. So focus on one change at a time.
You're IN school. Unless you're about to graduate very soon, just keep plugging away at your new degree and then tackle the associated career change. And on a positive note - you're actively working on keeping your brain healthy and warding off dementia 😉
The marriage issue, well, sounds like you're already looking at the bright side. Getting out of that "comfort zone" is scary but also liberating. You can finally be YOU! You may have to rediscover who YOU are, but at least you'll have the freedom to do so.
And as for the house - rent first. Decide what you really truly want. Don't rush anything there.

In the meantime we are all here to support you if you need to vent or are looking for some feedback. We believe in ourselves; that's why most of us are on this website. ?

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Its scary but doable. I did virtually the same. Just breathe, throw everything to the universe and take each moment as it comes. I am 52 too and I feel completely different. Everything has changed for me. But with it has come a new found confidence. I don't have to rely on my hubby or children to stand behind, I am a person in my own right. You know for all my married life I lived believing my entire self worth was wrapped around him. Because he was sucessful then I was judged sucessful, because my children are all sucessful then so am I. The thing is, I am a sucess. I was a senior clinical practitioner now (changed jobs at 46), I am a university lecturer and doing a Phd. My current partner is a junior school teacher, he earns less than me and really hasn't got prospects. Thats alright though ya know...because I don't just have to be a teacher's gf...I can be 52 year old me. I don't have to be 'still sexy'...I am newly found 52 year old sexy. Its better...so much better. I am relishing every minute of my new existence because IT'S MINE. Please be happy and send a pm if you fancy a chat.

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Samesies! Sort of. We got this!!

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If you think that your marriage is falling apart for the best then that is what it is. You will be ok in the end.

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Been there, done that at 58. I survived, so it is possible you will too! ?Just keep thinking of the new and exciting life that you will be able to make for yourself once it all passes. Don't forget to be good to yourself whenever possible. That part is really important.

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Keep it up ou can't let others get you down.

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You cannot stop these changes, but be aware all of them, divorce, moving, and career change, are Majorstressors! Be very good to yourself every day in small ways, like feet up, cuppa coffee or tea, a cookie. Try to hold off on major committments... rent, not purchase, for example, as your judgement may be overwhelmed. Good luck!

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I went through the same thing at exactly your age. Scary, exciting and empowering time isn't it?!? Keep your head up, let your emotions be allowed to be expressed and good luck!

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