All too often, I see people behaving poorly to each other, claiming that they are just being “truthful.”
Truth is not a justification for inconsideration.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Mother was an honest person, and I don't think I ever heard her say a word that was meant to hurt....was not one to give out un-asked for advice...and always gave the warning, "if you think you might not like the answer...don't ask the question"
HankSherman
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Feb 17, 2019
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Being an interesting and desirable person is the most simple thing in the world. The more interest you show in the person you are talking to the more interesting you are to that person. If I have a totally innocuous conversation with a new person I judge the likability of that person by how much interest they showed in me and assume I am judged the same way by them. It's amazing how many times I realize they never asked a single question about me and apparently saw my questions about them as an assumption that I only wanted to talk about them for the entire conversation. Wrong! The "truth" doresn't fall into that equation.
OCJoe
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Jan 27, 2019
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You don't need to go out of your way to be rude. Be human.
Bigwavedave
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Jan 27, 2019
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I don't see any kindness in ignoring the truth. Once the truth is faced and acknowledged, then kindness can begin. A friend is currently "polling" friends on fb asking which is more important, truth or kindness? I didn't answer, since I'd be in the minority, believing truth is the first step toward kindness. Those who refuse to accept the truth are doing themselves and others a disservice.
Julie808
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Jan 27, 2019
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For example, in love and relationships, my ex-boyfriend is trying to woo me again, and I admit I keep throwing the truth of him being a lying cheat at him, since he refuses to acknowledge his dishonorable and dishonest behavior.
For me, the first step in being able to be civil toward one another is the acknowledgement of the truth, an apology, and reassurance of being honorable and honest going forward.
Without accepting that truth and defining future behavior, there is nowhere to go but apart.
He refuses to acknowledge his lying, especially the most recent lie that caused our breakup, is a big deal. It was to me and was the last straw, meaning I have no reason to ever trust him again, since he can't even acknowledge the truth.
I tell him that honesty will be the first step toward us ever being even friendly with each other. He disagrees - and that's not acceptable to me. He prefers to ignore reality and live in some dreamworld. I can't do that.
He has recently been trying to tempt me back to our relationship by asking me to a variety of events. I flat out tell him no. If it is being “inconsiderate” to be truthful, then so be it. I’m not going to forgive a lie he won’t acknowledge and welcome him to be dishonest to me in the future. I simply won’t have it. That is my experience between honesty and consideration.
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