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I'm coming up in the first anniversary of my spouse's death and really don't know what to expect. I will always miss him and do everyday, but have tried to move on and have started a relationship that seems to be providing me with the friendship I'm looking for at the moment. What has been your experience with the anniversary time period?

SadbDanae 5 Jan 28
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Simple things will trigger the tears; A cologne,clothing,places to eat,music,and the shopping together,for me,it will be two years in Sept.that I lost my beloved wife of 27 years, I was a "Loner" before being married at 43,so the loss although painful,is not soul crushing as it could have been,I fall back on my bachelor survival instincts,will I marry again? Hard to say.....

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It takes a year at least to grieve properly, sometimes three or more, don't please think there is something wrong with you if you are not "over it" by now. It affects the way you think and behave in many small ways that you hardly notice, but they are still there, so do not be too hasty. And beware of making big changes while you are still grieving, you can regret it later when you are more yourself. It is good that you have a friend, I hope plenty of friends; living for what you can do for others and working at projects, even if they don't seem important now, can help a lot, if only taking away the thinking time, and at least you have something to show for it when you emerge from the tunnel. Wish I could be more help but that is all I have got.

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Everyone grieves in their own way and own time.

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