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What I look for in a friend...

Someone with will never remain in disagreement with me on a matter of fact. That a person that care enough about what is true to change my mind if they are correct or change their mind if I am.

On matters of taste and opinion the sky is the limit. We might argue the best song or best color for a car, but there simply is no wrong answer.

But on matter of fact, if you say to me "Lets agree to disagree," I will never respect you. It says to me, "I'd rather remain wrong than inch closer to truth. My pride is too fragile to learn and grow."

Give me a friend not only willing to argue, but well able to ague. And the ability to recognize when the argument has been lost. I offer the same in return.

ScottAHurst 6 Feb 22
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Truth is different for different people. It sounds to me like you don’t want to compromise, and that you are set in your own opinion, not willing to see that you are fallible.

"It sounds to me like you don’t want to compromise"

Really?
"that care enough about what is true to change my mind if they are correct"

"I offer the same in return."

I want someone that will change my mind. That sounds like I don't want to compromise?

While at the same time you state you will never respect a different opinion.

That is not compromise.

And you are not always correct in everything you do or believe. Which is true for anyone. @ScottAHurst

@Annaleda

"you will never respect a different opinion" I didn't say that. Period. I said exactly the opposite. Explicitly. "On matters of taste and opinion the sky is the limit. We might argue the best song or best color for a car, but there simply is no wrong answer."

"And you are not always correct in everything you do or believe. " And where do I suggest anything of the sort?

I am saying, I want a friend that is rational, skeptical, and cares about the truth. And one that knows how to argue well and fairly. Someone ready to be a partner in understanding the world better.

I am sorry you take such a different reading of it, but your criticism misses the mark entirely.

I think you're negative reaction is to "But on matter of fact, if you say to me "Lets agree to disagree," I will never respect you."

But you don't address it head on. It seems that you don't like someone pointing out the obvious, on matters of fact rather than opinion, agreeing to disagree is tantamount to not caring what is true. It is protecting your feeling from finding out you might be wrong.

I don't tolerate that shit in my self. It won't do in my friend either.

But let's not call that "unwilling to compromise" or "always thinking I'm correct."

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