I've had two relationships since my husband died. One lasted almost 2 years but he was way too young for me. Now to online dating. I've been on POF for about 4 years off and on. Yes scammers contact me often and I am adept at recognizing them almost immediately. That means they're really no problem just an irritant. When I pay attention to the site I usually average a date every 3 or 4 months with someone that is fairly nice but not all that compatible or appealing. Since I am open about my age, I think that's phenomenal. Now to my sad story. I started talking to this guy 350 miles away that lived 40 miles from my children in Kansas City. We were both enthusiastic and I kept telling him, I would call him the next time I came to Kansas City to see my kids. Well, every time I went to Kansas City my family had so many activities planned with the grandkids plays and recitals that I just didn't call him. Pretty soon our phone calls became fewer and farther between. Fast forward to last summer which was about a year-and-a-half after we started talking. I decided to make an effort to meet him and we met and had coffee on my way to Kansas City. I felt chemistry and was so excited about finally meeting him. I invited him to an event with my family the following evening and he declined because he said he already had a family event of his own scheduled. No problem as far as I'm concerned because family is important. 3 days later when I get home, I open his Facebook page after he had commented on one of my posts. Front and center is a picture of him on his wedding day. Lo and behold, he is on my Facebook page everyday since I met him for coffee including his wedding day. He is not flirting with me but he's always there and it makes me sad. I guess the moral of this story is if you I really interested in someone, don't put off meeting them.