Why do we usually think it's the other person's personality when we don't "hit it off" with them? Why are we so reluctant to see ourselves? For example, I know from the start it is probably me because know I'm difficult, outspoken, opinionated, not always "nice", and don't take to hypocrites, racist, or stupid people, (that doesn't include naive or people who are basically just "nice" ) We play too many games with our own heads..What say you?
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It amazes me how much of our fates are determined by our neurology. If the chemistry is there, it's there.
ElusiveMoby
Level 7
Feb 17, 2019
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the pheromones may be there but too bad we were once children.. our subconscious is powerful..
I don’t blame myself or the other person when our personalities don’t mesh. We’re just not compatible personalities. Some can be similar enough that you can be friendly and some not even that. It’s just how we are made... and then we get into the nurture aspect.
Green_eyes
Level 8
Feb 17, 2019
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i think you are one of those "just nice" people I was talking about..
I was always intrigued by the difference between the secular view that if enough people didn't like a person, it meant that person was an asshole, but the spiritual view was that if people didn't like a person, it was because that person was on the right road and the others weren't.
But how to come to any definite conclusion in a society of people who are all different levels of idiosyncracies, emotional baggage etc? If I were to use this forum as a guide to getting on with people, I think getting on is a matter of similar opinion,s and an extra level of getting on is to forge further agreements that certain people are anathema. It might be fair to say that in this regard, we still operate on the level of primitive tribes.
brentan
Level 8
Feb 17, 2019
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similar opinions.. how boring...lol
It takes two to tango 
GuitarDoctor
Level 7
Feb 17, 2019
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both "in step"
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