No, definitely not. I get not being on your A game or being nervous, but there's no need to be rude and/or abrasive.

Probably not. Even when I am on a date with a man who is treating me like a queen, I pay attention to how he treats others, especially in situations where they may fill a subordinate role. I dumped a guy mid-date for being rude to wait staff, not long ago.

As a guy, I understand women being abrasive initially. It could that they're being cautious. Rude, unless there is a really good reason; no.

Man, entire kinks are built around the question posed here.

I try to be understanding. My first impression is colored by everything from the mood I'm in to whether the gas station coffee I drank three hours earlier tasted more burned than usual. Sometimes I'm right. I like to think I have a pretty good nose.

Then again, I have been spectacularly wrong. Politeness is so easy that even assholes can do it. I've sworn by someone who was really a shitty person because they were always nice to me. I doubt I'm the only one.

I just don't think you can learn much about people based on a first impression. That's how we're wired though, sadly.

Of course not. If they will treat somebody they just met and hardly know in an abusive manner, that suggests that their behavior will only worsen once they get to know you better.

Depends on whether you want to date someone who is good at lying or not. I tend to like abrasive people more, the "nice" ones are generally the manipulators.

Only if that person is totally delicious.