"The quality of any relationship is measured by how much the needs of those involved are met".
This means, partners need to understand each other’s core need(s).
The Enneagram is a personality model showing the motivation behind behavioral patterns and the “why” provides our core need.
Look it up and join my Enneagram 101 group.
I'm still learning, but you're right, Hon.
I studied it several years ago with some RC nuns. I found it very insightful along with other psych tools.