Found out today that an old friend passed away. I cried. But not for him... he is not in pain any longer and his family was ready for this. I cried because I did not visit him in the last week's of his life. I cried because I was not a good friend. I cried because I missed the opportunity to tell him what a wonderful person he was.
Don't wait to tell folks how you feel about them. If you like their candor, tell them! If they have a great sense of style, tell them. If you find yourself smiling about something someone said, let them know. As often as you can, whenever the thought comes up...just say it. Life only goes one way, there are no do-overs.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Rather than beat yourself up for the missed opportunity to tell him how wonderful he was, just hope that he knew that from all your previous interactions, and know that you learned something going forward... to compliment folks often and unexpectedly to bring joy to the living in your present and future encounters.
Don't let that missed opportunity count for nothing. You've reminded us all of this important gesture, so thanks for sharing.
Julie808
Level 8
Mar 14, 2018
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I learned that a long time ago from my first cat. He would walk on the keyboard when I was on the computer and I would put him on the floor. This happened all the time. When he passed I felt the guilt of not petting him when he walked on the keyboard, he was just wanting some love. I make time now for humans and cats and dogs.
The things we learn from our pets.
MacTavish
Level 7
Mar 14, 2018
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I generally do but I wouldnt beat myself up too much over it as shit happens. its not like there going to notice or you can change a thing about it.
LeighShelton
Level 8
Mar 13, 2018
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Very true...
I did reach out to a mutual friend to find out about a service or whatever.
there's always something you can do. even a nice card with a fond memory in it.
I did the same thing! I cried because I was a shitty friend. I always meant to do something and never did. ?
Joshuahenley
Level 6
Mar 13, 2018
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I guess all we can do is accept it, learn from it, and try to do better. I wonder if it's just a human condition...to not want to be face to face with sickness, etc.
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