A suggestion:
Letting someone know you're interested in them is fine, but can we please be aware of how we do that? I have received a few private messages that have left me incredibly uncomfortable and I'm not sure how else to say it.
This is a fantastic site and some fantastic people. I really love the community here, so I'd love to get to know everyone but try not to start a conversation with something that makes people feel like you're going to make a suit out of their skin.
Just try a simple: hi I think you're pretty!
Ask yourself "how would I feel if a stranger sent this to my daughter or my sister?"
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Ack! Sorry about that. Meant to send it to my publisher as a follow on in the Silence of the Lambs 'verse.
/humor off
I send a note to say "hi" and try to chat. If I don't get responses... communication (or wish for lack thereof) received and move on.
IF I were to receive something truly offensive, I'd block (we can do that right?), go for a mental cleanse and move on... if it were TRULY OFFENSIVE, and threatneing... tell the admin? Please?
I am with you and I hope that I have not offended anyone and have not been offended myself (granted, it's mostly just me and the crickets).
And, for the record, I am sorry to hear that you have been receiving texts/messages that are less than pleasing. On behalf of that part of the species (which I hope is not mine, save, possibly, in gender form): I extend heartfelt apologies and hopes that this problem never recurs.
Gnarloc
Level 7
Mar 15, 2018
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I appreciate it. I've yet to see anything offensive from you, but this last one really got under my soft, velvety smooth skin lmao. Normally I just brush them off and don't bother with them but sometimes a truly unnerving one seeps through and leaves me locking my doors.
@LadyAlyxandrea Maybe brushing is too soft. Try... no, wait, that will likely just excite them. Never mind! Stick with the brushing techniques. 
Locking your doors isn't bad. Blocking them is good... although, maybe letting them know that you are, and why, might be better. So that they get feedback letting them know that this is NOT the set of a horror movie and their suggestions are thus NOT ok. Might help them to realize they need to grow up and join the real world.
I’m sure hi you’re pretty gets a lot of guys put into the friend zone. I’m not defending them, just saying. Maybe that’s part of their motivation.
NothinnXpreVails
Level 8
Mar 14, 2018
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You've got a point!
Here it's not so true, but in the world if all you have experienced of someone is the light bouncing off of their scintillating form, such that you do NOT know anything about their personality, why is it a crime to, respectfully mind, say that you think they are lovely? 
I'd think friend zone would be better than "creepy stalker who wants to wear your skin" zone
@LadyAlyxandrea hahahahahaha I suppose
Usually I just say hi and say a nice few words, but I don't feel right aiming for a date on this site, at least not yet. I'd just like to let people know I'm here and then see how their discussions are, see if we have stuff in common. I dunno. I worry that if I try to date someone and it doesn't work it might lead to me missing some fun topics to discuss
Ersomething
Level 6
Mar 14, 2018
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You've been fine lol. I enjoy talking to you
Well I appreciate it 
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