My Three Highest Dating/Relationship Priorities

1. Honesty + Forthrightness
2. Intellectual Openness
3. Emotional Connection

In support of these highest values, in addition to lots of conversation, I am very open to kissing, cuddling, "making out", AND sexual contact, however, I forbid either of us from driving for orgasm, while we are together, until after the 3rd to 5th applicable date with each other.

You may think, upon first encounter, that my rule is odd, but consider the realities of what I am talking about:

Sexual contact does indeed facilitate emotional connection, honesty, and openness, but driving to orgasm is predominately a selfish act on the part of either person... it is mentally and emotionally isolating, and it turns sharing sexual contact into a robotic, self-serving activity. Therefore, I forbid it, until we know each other a lot better. If you think about it, as I have, it makes a lot of sense.

Comments? Questions? Confusions?