My VSS-O's stepfather is a pastor. She still has faith, despite mistreatment at the hands of the church.

I was but she wasn’t pushy about it and we never argued about it. We still get along. But don’t think I would ever do it again.

Mine was mixed in multiple ways. I'm mainly white with no religion and she was mainly black with religion. After a dozen years, she left without giving a reason though I'm sure it was she finally realized that I was completely honest with her regarding my lack of belief towards absurd, bigoted gods and lost hope of bringing me back from the dark side. We also agreed to avoid the topic of religion before we got married which might be why I didn't get a reason. I do hope it works out for you though I'd rather try heroin, pick up a hobby like serial killing or relocate to North Korea than subject myself to that again.

I’ve found that socratic questioning and SE tactics have allowed me to talk to my partner in a much more productive way. Avoidance is just kicking the can down the road until there’s a major decision to be made together which could be potentially disastrous. Show them you love them by helping them reason themselves out of faith.

You must really love your wife. I don't think I could be in a relationship where the other one was a believer. It would be difficult.

I am, but I sort of hold my tongue about religion. I never really called myself an atheist until 7 or 8 years ago. I met my wife before that, and since she doesn't talk much about her faith, I assumed she didn't really hold religious beliefs. I haven't believed in years, and have always searched out other non-believers on the internet. One night, I left my browser window open, and she saw what I was doing, so I told her I was an atheist, and that it seemed everyone I knew was religious, so I was really just seeking like minded community. She is a great person, and is supportive, but she is very touchy about her Catholic faith. We don't talk about it much.
She has accompanied me to some atheist conventions and meetups, but she will not talk about religion at all. It can be tough at times, but I love her. I haven't told our kids, because some of them are very religious. I have no idea how that happened.

I was until I we had kidsand I had to confront her.
She was a weak catholic and wanted to indoctrinate our son.
I told her that I would allow it only if she could provide proof of God's existence and proof that Catholisicism is true or even good for our son.
Over a few months she let go of her long weakly held beliefs and became an atheist.

Not married, but I was in two mixed “relationships”.

One Christian, one Muslim.

In both, I was not allowed to meet the family or friends. LoL

I think It could have got serious with the Muslim girl, as we got along great and had many common interests. But I got tired of being “the secret”.