My exspouse had a lot of these qualities. But I didn't feel the same as he felt for me. Hope we both find that unicorn!

so in short stay single till you die

Or, just stay single...

I say never settle, but never look for perfection either. There is definitely a middle ground here. This may just be the Asperger's in me (we don't read facial/social cues very well,) but I would rather have someone TELL me what they need and how they feel rather than having to guess all the time. Granted, I will happily put in the effort for the right woman, but a little bit of openness on her end would also go a long way.

I think it's possible. Or at least someone who meets most of these; everyone's got their deal-breakers, and it's different for each relationship, too.