Shit happens! We're never immune. I was married and had four kids with a narcissist personality disorder wife.. The experience is psychotically damaging. Married in 79, old school, for better or worse. When the decision to end the marriage came after thirty years it took three years of insanity to finalize. It's sad. But that's life, isn't it? You can't take it personal. I made decisions that were stupid. Some were genius! LOL! So now, I'm sixty three. Many decisions will still need to be made. Simplify