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Should fidelity between cohabitating couples be absolute, or should absolute sexual fidelity be more lax - for both of them.
After all, the latter was initially insisted upon by the Christian Church, as a means of keeping track on Christian offspring and reducing the chance of incest, which was known to produce defects, even if the mechanism was a mystery.

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Petter 9 Apr 1
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I couldn't be with someone who wanted to be with other women, but that's just me. I'm up front about that in all my potential relationships. If a man wants to date other women and me, fine. But once sex is in the picture, I don't like to share.

This post isn't about continually "wanting to be with other sexual partners." It's really to do with something that happens more often than most people will admit, the odd "fling" by either partner. Is it really such a big deal? I would find it a greater offence if one treated one's partner as second best, and vice versa.

@Petter Yes, to me it's a big deal.

@AzVixen52 I think you're in the landslide majority. However, some research has reported that about 35% of both men and women over 50 have not been utterly faithful, although for the majority it was only once or twice during many years of cohabitation.

@Petter I would hope with age, comes wisdom and the ability to be faithful to a partner if that is how you come into a relationship, i.e., that is the expectation. Open relationships work for some people, but not for me.

@AzVixen52 I think with age comes acceptance and less pressure from hormones and pheromones, especially by my age.

@Petter Perhaps. Wisdom is probably too much to hope for.

@AzVixen52 🙂 Besides which, with great age wisdom teeth tend to fall ot!!

@Petter Be true to your teeth and they won't be false to you!

@AzVixen52 Love it! I may plagiarise that comment!!
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What ever floats ya boat as they say . But personally I wouldn't be comfortable with it not sure if it's ego or self esteem but I just couldn't handle it . However those that I have seen in the relationships not many last as it tends to be one more into it than the other . Some have claimed this as manipulative behaviour sometimes abbusive. Into only seems to work when both are on equal grounds

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There's a polyamory group you may like. whatever two people agree ion should be honored.

My wife would be adamantly against it, even though I would be open. This question is more on the morals of the occasional infidelity and the church attitude to it.

@Petter It's not moral or ethical if you're breaking an agreement.

I've had a look. It seems interesting. Thanks
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The Jewish faith recognised that sexual infidelity was bound to happen, and so kept track of the mother - not the attributed father.

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