I have had a rough time over the last 8 years. I'll spare you the details....but, it has been a period of my life that has taken a toll on me emotionally, and psychologically. I've had problems with my own insecurities and codependence my entire life, have been relatively shy and reclusive, around women and men, mostly because of self-esteem issues and depression. My life is full of great things....two wonderful kids (now adults) who continue to impress me. I live in a beautiful place. Yet, I have lost my sense of gratitude. My vigor for all of life's joy. I am working so hard on trying to reframe and shed the sadness and bitterness. I want to be free of it. How do some of you cope with things in your life that could cause you to become jaded?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Several years ago I had gotten to point similar to what you're talking about. On the surface, everything was very good, but there was a depression and emptiness underneath. Unfortunately, it took an extreme upset to snap me out of it. (Well, "snap" is not really accurate--more like a prolonged shove.) I lost my job, got divorced, and moved, within the space of 2 years. Then I REALLY had something to be depressed about. But while working through all of that, I got in touch with my feelings again. I'm able to feel joy and pleasure again, as well as pain. I feel more whole now. I'm not completely out of the woods yet, but I'm getting there. And it's not because my marriage was bad, or my job was bad, it was more just the complacency. Of course, I'm not recommending you go through anything like that. It's just that sometimes it takes drastic change to shake you out of it. Hope this helps some.
Tomfoolery33
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Apr 1, 2018
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This is a daily fight that I have as well. Some days are worse than others, and I am still trying to find a way to cope. I go back to work tomorrow after being off for over a week, and I am trying not to hyperventilate over the thought. I love my job, but the stress lately is overwhelming. Which then leads me back to being irritable, sad and bitter. I should be happy, I am very fortunate, but sadly I am not. I am going to try to take things one step at a time, and not try to solve every problem. I am hoping that will help. I hope you find what you need in order to feel better.
Browneyedlady
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Apr 1, 2018
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I have learned about mindfulness, living in the moment. It helps you to accept people, events etc with out judging. If interested read something by Thick Nhat Hanh. It has made me a much happier person.
looking4some1
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Apr 1, 2018
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sometimes I can only try to think of ways to live through pain. When I first got on FB looking for some community I realized that wasnt realistic. I didnt want to get in personal conversations there.I just started to looke for beautiful pictures, things that exist outside the realm of human trivialities and furor.I liked to see them and posted them to kind of save them for reference. WHen people liked the post or wrote me a note I liked that. Sometimes you have to take the small things and hold them tight
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Apr 1, 2018
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