I think this would depend on the individual woman , but I suggest that there are several basics we can most likely agree on . I'd start with mutual respect . I won't settle for someone I can't respect , nor would I settle for a man who does not respect me . Responsible , a man who understands a relationship requires both people working to maintain the relationship . There are alternative life styles , and whichever the two of you choose to live , requires that you both contribute to the over all good . There will be rough times , and each member should have the other's back . If you have a heart attack and are hospitalized , you would expect your partner to help you , especially when you return home . Mutually , if your wife for instance , gives birth , she also needs your help . If the company you work for goes bankrupt , it may be easier for you to manage on a lower income , until you are reemployed , but that also means there is less time to handle all of the household chores . Be there for each other .