Miserable people focus on what they hate about life.
Happy people focus on what they love about life.
Zig Ziglar.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I find my "focus" is not because I am miserable but I find the things I hate to be the causation for my misery.
It's not easy being optimistic when you are beaten down by a mob of people that cannot be well enough defended against.
Word
Level 8
Sep 21, 2021
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You can always walk away. Close your ears and eyes to those people.
While that might be true, it sounds a bit woo. My feeling is that when you're miserable, all you can think about is what is making you miserable, since it's consuming you. When you're happy, your focus is on what makes you happy. Simple as that.
Pretending you're not in a miserable situation, searching for a solution and instead pretending to focus on the few things going well doesn't really remove you from the miserable situation and miraculously put you in a happier one.
You can't just say to a person deep in depression, it's their fault for not focusing on what makes them happy... That could actually remind them why they are unhappy as those things seem to be out of reach for the moment.
Focusing on reality and the goal of getting out of the misery in the best way possible and into a better situation takes reasoning skills, but yes, adding in more things that make us happy is always a good idea!
Julie808
Level 8
Sep 21, 2021
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You are right, when one is depressed nothing els matters, however in that hole one has to stop digging.
Effective people focus on changing the things they hate about life, including opening the eyes of dumb people to the truth that they are not really happy just willfully ignorant of reality.
LenHazell53
Level 9
Sep 20, 2021
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Oh, aren't you ever such a positive soul.
@Jolanta I am a very positive actually, but I am also a realist.
One of the most wise aphorism I ever heard is
"Remember, a cynic is what an idealist calls a realist."
Decide what you are before thinking you have been insulted. 
Speaking as a miserable person, sayings like this are why we hate happy people. Happy people just aren't paying enough attention to how miserable life really is.
Paul4747
Level 8
Sep 20, 2021
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I wanted to give you the hug icon but the truth is funny.
@rainmanjr No hugs needed, I'm happy being miserable. (It only sounds like a contradiction, but when something shit happens, it fulfills my understanding of the world, and so I'm satisfied.)
Maybe this link will help explain: [tvtropes.org] Knight In Sour Armor
I'll save you a moment and snip two pertinent quotes that may provide some insight into my character:
"Ernest Hemingway once wrote, 'The world is a fine place and worth fighting for.' I agree with the second part."
— William Somerset, Se7en
... it's easy to love everyone when Rousseau Was Right, but you really have to be a good guy to believe that Humans Are Bastards and care about them anyway.
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