Personally, I pigeonhole "people who complain about losing white male privilege" as douches, but that might be wrong of me. They're probably just people of incredibly limited perspective who never developed empathy for anyone not of their tribe, and can't put themselves in the perspective of someone who has to go out every day and "prove" they "earned" their job, their house, their car (should they be so lucky as to have those things; millions don't).

Talking of "self-righteousness and tribal instincts," that's basically what complaining about equality comes down to; other people not of your tribe don't deserve to be up alongside you. I espouse post-tribalism; the only immoral and unjust thing is telling other people they should know their place and not ask for a chance at more, which is basically what your post comes across as.

When your neighbor calls the police because they think you look suspicious walking out of your own house, and you have to prove that you live there or risk getting handcuffed; then you can complain about "identity politics". The plain fact is that a lot of white people still discriminate and think they are the only ones who belong in "their" kind of neighborhood.

This seems to be a bit of hysteria. But for a very long time many people, primarily women and minorities, were treated very poorly and it was completely normal and acceptable to freely and publicly say degrading and bigoted comments about these people.

Now, people aren't so willing to be walked over and stepped on. People, especially minorities, push back against bigotry.

Maybe some people think they push back too hard and that makes people uncomfortable.

Maybe when women's rights aren't being taken away, when unarmed black people aren't being shot by police, when gays and trans people aren't being murdered... maybe then they'll stop pushing back so hard. Angry people aren't always completely fair. Shocking!

And sure, when people feel threatened they ban together into "tribes". That's nothing new.