I've been struggling quite a bit with my depression the past few months. Having a lot of trouble balancing out medications. Some days it's really hard to get out of bed. A few friends have mentioned I've been unpleasant, either sad or bitchy (I'm exhausted no matter how much sleep) every time they see me. That I should try turning that around, no one wants to be with a miserable and grouchy person. It pisses me off. I know they say these things out of good intent, but are their suggestions legitimate? Or ignorant? Am I just stuck in my own head?
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Unfortunately mental illnesses are a constant exsausting battle...all u can do is be u the best u can friends must understand that is part of u n not judge & if they do just put them in the aquantance zone instead of friend zone which is less likely to effect your goodness!
tiredjusttired
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May 5, 2018
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Meds have helped me, I hope you find the right mix. When I'm depressed it's easy for me to see it as a moral failure on my part. If only I had more gumption or will or something I wouldn't be in this shape. It's not true but it can be a seductive lie. The wiring in the brain is wrong and if that gets fixed, other things will follow.
davsmith4156
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May 4, 2018
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My heart is with you because I have been where you are, for a long time. I found a very good therapist and the right meds. Do you have any one to talk to? It really helps to find the right person to help uncover the issues keeping you stuck. Don't settle for just anyone, keep looking until you are comfortable.
@Nontradstudent Yes, I do see a therapist now. It's odd though, 5 years ago I was taking the same meds I do now. I functioned at work and was cheerful but I had ballooned up to 285 lbs. and did nothing but work, eat, and sleep. My apartment was frightening and my lower back always hurt. The worst thing was that I had accepted that I was a lazy, worthless failure. I don't know why out of all the times I swore I had to get it together this time I managed to stick with it.(Divine intervention can safely be ruled out). So far I've taken off 75 lbs. and the rest of my life has improved. The reason I posted is I know what it's like not to be able to get out of bed. I don't know what pushed me from negative to positive but I don't think it was any effort on my part. Well meaning and ill tempered advice to the depressed can both be destructive because it contains the underlying assumption that application of the will is the answer.
I wish I had an answer. Half the time it feels like I put on this facade for people and once Im alone Im just constantly trying to think positive. With recent events in my life it's a constant struggle. I find myself slipping and people see through the cracks of the mask I put on for show lately.
MrBrightSide
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May 4, 2018
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Only you can free your mind. You live in Canada so I would do what you can to get a medical marijuana card and try some edible cannabis products. Do your research first as far as what might be best for your symptoms, body weight, metabolism, etc. Cannabis is medicine, not drugs.
ArtBrown
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May 4, 2018
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