I'm in an unhappy and probably collapsing marriage (just adding some background-- I know I'm not the only one). I've developed an overwhelming infatuation with someone I know-- I mean-- take a high school infatuation and multiply it by about a hundred. Try that when you're 53-- very painful. She's married-- I know her and her husband a little bit. We're both musicians and collide paths once in a while-- maybe a few times a year. I can't describe what it is that attracts me to her. I'm a very sexual person, but I don't fantasize about her. She's just really beautiful. She has a diverse ethnic background, but doesn't look mysteriously exotic. She doesn't have a killer body and is in her mid 40's, so it's not like I've fallen for a college sophmore of something stupid like that. She put on some weight recently, and I thought "great-- there's more of her!". I would never make any sort of advance towards her. Just hard to explain sometimes.

Absolutely - and it often has more to do with interesting, or unusual, then with physical perfection. I love to look at people - all kinds - for all different reasons ... Always fascinating.

I'm not to impressed with looks. I must admit some people I may find stunning, but that's about it. To me a person's attractiveness shines from within.

My second answer is, the darker the skin and the lighter the eyes. The unnatural seeming juxtaposition just whew! My knees grow weak. Why, yes, I DO love Jesse Williams with all my, um, eyeful lust. Better yet, dark skin with green eyes. Just melt. Male, female, young, old. It is just amazing. Um, having said that and lust, I literally don't mean sexual lust, I mean, EYE lust. I want to look. And look. And look. My daughter won't let me take pictures of random people, so I really do have to look all I can at the time!

I have two answers. I'm going to post separately because they are very different. First, I find in the world that 99% of the people are "regular." Then . 9% are amazingly beautiful. Only like . 1% are actually ugly or unattractive. Though I know that's relative because once I met a person through friends, commented IN MY DIARY, that he was the ugliest person I ever met, and two years ago, wondered what the fuck I was thinking, he was absolutely normal looking, because we had become friends.

That said, when I do run across one of those people who are just ugly - not like deformed or obviously had some kind of defect, but just (to me) incredibly ugly, I have to work hard to stare. Because I find it fascinating. And I know there are people who do not find that person ugly, and that if I got to know them I wouldn't, but it's such a rare thing for me, and SO much more interesting than seeing a beautiful or regular person, that I do have to be careful not to let myself be caught staring.

I saw this woman in Starbucks the other day, and I couldn't take my eyes off her face. I didn't say anything, I tried to not keep staring because that's rude and I'm not THAT creepy. I love watching people, and sometimes I notice someone absolutely breathtaking, be it a man, a woman, a child... I can never tell which special part got me all curious, more of the whole picture I suppose. However, if I have to choose, it's probably the eyes

Definitely there are some people that are stunning in their appearance. Not sure what it is but it is clearly there. Kind of scary thinking the things I might do just to be close to ones I have seen. Such an attractive quality.