I am the only atheist in my family and unfortunately Im living with them right now. hopefully I will be out sooner than later. Ive never met someone I can be open with regarding my religious opinions. this is my first time reaching out so hopefully something good comes out of it. Just looking to get to know some people I may have something in common with.
Hello, I'm Carla. I'm a lifelong Agnostic, 78 year old woman, didn't come from a religious family. So we are at opposite ends of life, which could be interesting. I do have young grandchildren but little contact due to more than one factor, geography being the chief one. But the family was fractured by my daughter-in-law, heavily influenced by her Jehovah's Witness religion. Good luck! Life ain't easy at times and I'm in one of those times...I think it's the worst of all...but nothing I can do about it. "Old age is not for sissies".
We live in today digital world; then don't expect grown up children care about you. I think we should keep walking on with our journey. It's cool to mind our old life, by just forget about children and grandchildren.
if they love you, it won't matter
Its conditional love with my family. Way too fundamentalist!!
What matters most is what you believe. You're not under any obligation to justify your beliefs to anyone excepting yourself. You can live under the same roof peacefully with people of opposing opinions by accepting that is their belief and you are not required to prove why you believe as you do. Accept them as they are. Don't try to change or challenge them nor be baited into arguments.
My dad was awesome when I finally told him. He said he already knew and he didn't care My mom, younger brother and grandmother had issues at first especially when I said no more christmas. It took them awhile but now they've come around which makes me so happy because my younger brother means so much to me. Sometimes I think my mom pretends to accept it but actually thinks I'm going straight to hell
I see no need to eliminate Christmas just the religious part of it! It's also a cultural holiday whether one is religious or not and, in fact, Christianity stole a lot of their customs and holidays from others to begin with.
I eliminated it bc I saw just how greedy some of my family could truly be. I was cussed out by a close family member because I spent a little more money on someone else's gift. That was it for me. Lots of my atheist friends do celebrate it just without religion which is totally cool with me
Thanks for the reply! I hate christmas with my family. In the morning my dad has to read the bible jesus story with the whole family gathered around and its seriously about jesus all day until we go to church at night and have christmas communion and service and listen to jesus music all day. My family is extremely fundamentalist. last year I skipped out on christmas to work. Im thinking I might skip it again this year. I am what Greta Christina would call an "angry atheist" lol jk. but I seriously despise christianity and want to be as far away from it as possible.... Damn re-reading this I sound like religion really F'd me up lol. I love being a skeptic though, Im way better off without religion.
just remember that you won't be able to change their minds. just keep your head down and get along. it's certainly not worth losing family. unfortunately, they will likely be the ones to shun you. you're the more evolved one.
Keep an open mind regarding the opinions of others. Listen to them and what they are telling you. Choose points to discuss and get comfortable with your own position. As you talk about it, remember you have an absolute right to what ever you choose to believe. Remember that they have the same rights of belief as you. do not attack others beliefs regardless or how absurd you might think they are. The defense is usually to wall up and hide , and there will be no communication at that point. Listen and think about what they have told you, try to understand their point of view. This will allow you to be open and will help you to solidify your own thoughts and feelings. here there---done that!
Spot on!
I havent read his book yet but that sounds like some advice I would expect to read in Peter Boghossian's "Manual for Creating Atheists". Am I right???
And the only part I would take issue with is "choose to believe". I never made a choice to not believe in gods anymore it just happened over time. But I like your advice, thank you.
As far as I'm aware I'm the only atheist in my family. I think it's probable that one of my cousins could be an atheist, but if she is she'll never admit to it because both her parents are zealots.
I'm still living with my family until I can save up enough money to move out of my own, which I hope is sooner rather than later.
OK man I totally get you. I am also the only atheist in my family along with being the only male. In fact my mother will sometime say that she doesn't want me to "infect" her pure daughters with my beliefs and complains that I embarrass her, by not showing up to religious gatherings, in front of her religious friends.
Look if you want my opinion just try to steer away fro. all religious and/or exstistantial questions and discussions at home if you are not already doing so your self.
Oh yea, I have tried to talk religion with my fam in the past and the conversation always ends on a negative note. I just leave it alone now but thats because I want to keep a roof over my head. But I fear that when I move out - which will be soon with the good money Im making - that I am not going to keep my opinions bottled up anymore because all I want to do is call out all the B.S. when it comes up because its all around all the time. Its really frustrating, lol.
Although I’m not the only atheist in my family, and I have friends who are irreligious, it is hard to find likeminded individuals with whom you can have stimulative conversations regarding piety, spirituality, secularism, and even politics. So I’m hoping this site proves prolific as well.
You will feel so free when it happens. I was lucky to have a family who all became atheists because of me.
Oh I wish I could convince my family to doubt their beliefs but I really think its impossible. They are super fundamentalists.