be spontaneous. if it feels right it is right. you didn't have that as an answer. sometimes you just want a quicky and sometimes you want the whole shooting match but sometimes you just want a cuddle, a sleep or a chat. just play it by ear I say. there's nothing wrong with any of your choices.

Good men can be stupid when it comes time to initiate sex, so I usually take on that role, aggressive men turn me off because I feel like all they want is a conquest and then move on. Influential men, guys with a drive to climb to the top can be exciting and fun, but you need to know that you'll eventually be taking a backseat to his success and some women are ok with that, I'm not. I don't like being treated like a thing, an arm piece, and I have a brain, I have a personality, I have something to contribute, If he disrespects that, he's disrespected me, and I'm done with him.

It has been my experience that women spent far more time getting ready for a date than men ever do. As to initiates sex that has always been in women's court unless the man is bordering on being a rapist. Women communicate with a lot of nonverbal means than men do, that touch on the forearm or elbow means more than what most men think it does.