My stance on normativity pertains to the specific case of mandatory social conformism.
Social conformity in all spheres is not legitimate.
That means when someone attacks something by saying "people think this is normal, but it's not" or "this is not a normal thing", then what they are saying is automatically drivel.
Life and existence are necessarily and in part defined by approach and attainment. That truth, in all cases, excludes normal life and normativity as necessarily true conclusions.
After some thinking, I have concluded that this is not necessarily true, because in the complementary cases, even in the highest norms, there is very plausibly a demand for conformity, but that doesn't mean that vox populi and other vulgar norms are any better than they already are.