When my ex husband started stalking me, I threatened to tell his new girlfriend, and he quit.

If you can find her Facebook for instance, it would quickly show the people in her life who might influence her, then threaten to tell her mother, employer, or whoever.

Be sure to document her stalking activities because they always deny it.

Keep documentation of all stalking activities. It was having saved texts/email/calls that worked to my advantage in court. Get witnesses to document also.
There are different types of stalkers. Is she an ex, acquaintance...or a stranger? The difference is motivation. Google ‘types of stalkers’; lots of good info. flyingmonkeysdenied.com is one website with info.
Stay safe.

You know martial arts. Your SO knows martial arts as well, yes? Trust in your ability to defend yourselves, physically. There's very little you can do to stop someone from coming after you and cutting your brake lines or setting your house on fire, or shooting you. All you can be is vigilant.

Mostly, what I'm saying, is be confident. Be strong. Don't let this stalker have ANY power over you. If she's making clients uncomfortable - that's on her. If she's talking shit about you to people you work with - that's on her. You do you. She'll fuck herself just fine continuing to do what she's doing.

If it gets to a point where she's making overt threats, is trespassing, is commiting crimes - then it's time to say fuck peace orders (btw - for those that don't know that's a type of restraining order that covers non-family members. Maryland has "Protective orders" for family, and "Peace orders" for non-family. Yes I did creep on your profile, Mr. Mcfunky.) Obviously a restraining order isn't working - so you SUE her ass. Harrassment, Slander, Mental Suffering, whatever. If she's going to break the law over stalking you - use the legal system to your advantage.

And absolute worse case scenario - If she physically harms you or your SO - please use that opportunity to teach her a lesson. If she grabs you - use that BJJ to take her to the ground. If she grabs your SO's hair - have her break this lady's nose.

So in summation - Ignore her and pity her.
If she breaks the law - file a lawsuit.
If she attacks you - Defend yourself.

Best of luck, m8.

I know David Letterman had a female stalker. What does she do?not sure what you mean by a peace order

I am sorry you are going through this. I can see how it would be a bit more difficult for a man to report being stalked. Would it be wise for you and your fiance to approach her in one of those work/social circle situations? By "peace orders" do you mean the same thing as "restraining orders"? What does your fiance suggest?