The first few sexual partners, in fact the first couple of partners, plus my mother's injunction that it was always the girls choice as to if and when to have sex, were the defining influences.

Consent and enjoying each other. Life is too short not to enjoy and share it with others.

I guess I arrived at my views by mutual likes and communication with my partner.
As far as what is right, wrong, or perverted, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, only the two (or more lol) of us.

I think this is the pagan in me - if it feels good do it. Consenting adults only! As long as no one is being lied to or cheated on and safe sex practiced. I suspect many religions try to make sex bad or perverted unless it is for procreation.