there are at least 3 sides to every story, the truth is somewhere in between, but abuse is never acceptable. Ever.

@Rugglesby agreed,one of my exes says "i don't know how he didnt hit me",basically i don't hit women,but the provocation i had was unreal,and i know a lot of men that have suffered from this type of thing,and they are not abusive,but their lives fall apart when the woman takes away their children.it may not be the popular thing to say,but i would like to hear his side of things before passing judgement

@aikipt I know that story only too well, my ex did that in 1993, came home with a policemen,( a friend of mine) kids had been taken from school and she took some clothes for them. I could not see them for 2 weeks, they went through hell, as did I. Finally got to court, the magistrate issued me an apology and a warning for the ex. All because I asked her to leave. She stayed longer, then my mother in law visited, and we had a long chat, she could see what was going on and with her blessing as well, kids and I moved out and I stayed a single dad. The other side for me though is my father was a wife beating child bashing alcoholic. I will always step in and defend someone being abused and accept that they in their turn may also be abusers as was my mother. I was no saint, although I provided well for the family and my ex never did without, once our relationship fell apart I would go weeks without speaking to her.

@aikipt You have a very valid point....a very real one.