When one is dealing with behind the screen dating, they can pretend to be anything they want, until the true test comes along when you finally meet up. Then the colors come out which can be scary. I have seen my share and heard it all.. I don't think there is anything that would surprise me anymore. Some just write down what they think the other gender wants to hear. Some could care less and some are just bottom feeders and like to play games. It is tough and the older you get, the worse it gets too.

So far, I have reported 2 people to the Admin and blocked them both. I am certain that one is a total scammer (not who he says he is...to what end, I have no idea)..... the other, I am really creeped out by, he was messaging me and through his messages I discovered his real name and when I googled him I discovered he is a registered sex offender.

I find it incredibly misleading in the avatars people choose. I’m the same irl, as I am online. My avatars are a pretty realistic view of my person. I don’t mind when people put up pics of them looking especially nice, but share the real (everyday) you too. It’s such a shock to see them in reality. This is men and women.

I just now made a post about habitual liars. I'm a very veracious person. I tend to look at what people do and not what they say. Most of the time the actions and statements don't correlate. I am very vigilant. I notice a lot. I have really good hearing in one ear, semi-good in the other. I took a Forensic Science class in high school that taught us how to spot a liar. I then went on to watch seminars and YouTube videos on liars. As well a book I found on the subject. I'm skeptical of everything.

I haven't seen too much dishonesty or secrecy online. I'm unsure whether people need to air all of their dirty laundry early on, though. Some things, like bipolar disorder, can be discussed in greater depth as the relationship grows. Other things, like alcoholism, probably ought to be disclosed earlier, but often people are in heavy denial about their addictions or personality flaws, so it's difficult to expect that they'll be especially forthright when it comes to dating. I think it's best, if you're looking for a long-term connection, to take things slowly and really get to know the other person before making any life-altering decisions.