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Is there one that got away for you?

That one that still holds space in your heart? Do you wonder what became of them? Do you think it would have lasted and would it have been wonderful?

The one that got away from me was very different from me but damn I really loved him. I am sure if we went on and tried to make it there would have been plenty of issues between us. I just wonder if it was as special as I felt it was. He still holds a whole lot of space in my heart and I keep thinking he will come around some day. Yep I am a fool.

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For me,it was chances never taken,risks never thought of,now at 70,regretting never marrying when I should have, and having kids,had I done so, possible Grand Children now. Wife of 27 years has been gone one year and a day now,good times, but the hour before sleep has all the bad memories come to visit..........

Mike1947 Level 7 Sep 14, 2018
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Yes, she is a year older than I. We became best friends in middle school and while in high school we still talked with each other while dating others. Despite being at different colleges and not dating we met, and because of age, did everything except copulate. She then got her PhD at an elite U and I got my second Bachelors at the first U in the world to have a polymer engineering department. Her and I still exchange a couple of emails a year.

gsiamne Level 7 Sep 11, 2018
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After my last divorce, I had such memories of three different ladies from the distant past. I looked each of them up .... Long story short .... Yikes!!, Yikes!!, and Yikes!!!

Maybe there really was a good reason it didn't work out.

@Akfishlady well, on the one hand, it's kind of nice to have some closure to that open ended "What if ..." But it also feels like a bit of a loss that those dreams and fantasies could never have come true.

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Ging. Lovely Thai woman I dated. We broke up and she married and has kids.
We're still very close friends.

Hastur Level 8 Sep 10, 2018
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One teenage boyfriend. We lived about 100 miles apart, he was in Munich, I was in Nuernberg. I wondered for many years what life would have been like with him. We both married, had children, and actually stayed in touch over all these years, and are still in contact to this day.

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I dunno that I'd say he "got away" more like he stayed away. He lived in CA and was supposed to move to Omaha. Everyone said moving would be a good step, including his Mom. I gave him some financial assistance to move. And then Mom didn't feel so well, and then his car was hit and totalled, or so he said. When it was good it was soooo very very good. My heart was broken, my job was ending, and I had to move. It was a really hard time. I found a new job really quickly, heard from him once more 2 years later when I moved into the house I'm in now. Which is why I will never again do long distance. With interest rates what they are I figure he owes me around $10,000 now.

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Yup. But no - probably wouldn't have lasted , due to his drinking.

It was a mighty fine trip while it lasted though ...
I'll never forget it.

evergreen Level 8 Sep 10, 2018
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Not really. For me, the things that ended needed to.

I don't get really worked up over fantasies or longings. I'm pretty practical about what is, and what is not.

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Someone always seems to hold that space, and I'm trying to address that issue. I believe it's kept me from really experiencing fulfilling, healthy intimate relationships for too much of my adult life.

SonofMax Level 7 Sep 10, 2018
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There are many who occupy space in my heart. Fortunately space used in a heart does not diminish the space still left. I sometimes wonder if they still wonder about me. The only one that hurts is the one I still hang out with. To be so close but not closer.

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Yes, there is one; but when I think about her, it occurs to me that, being who I am, had we stayed together any longer, I would have found a way to screw it up somehow.

Condor5 Level 8 Sep 10, 2018
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I always think of "the one that got away" as just another way of sayign "an old unrequited love".

snytiger6 Level 9 Sep 10, 2018
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Yep. 10 years later there is not a day that I don't think about her.

Secretguy Level 7 Sep 10, 2018
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There's a couple that got away. And when I think back at the reasons for it, I relax and realize my feelings were irrelevant. They would never have completely accepted me.

MrLizard Level 8 Sep 10, 2018

I can definitely relate.

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I would say if they got a way they weren't the right one

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Wow.. I had one who ruined me for all other girls throughout high school. When my long marriage ended, I looked her up. We eventually spent some serious time together … mutually concluding, ‘we’re not compatible.’ We remain close friends, and that’s amazingly wonderful, but she’d have been the one that got away. As is ..nice to actually know smile001.gif

Varn Level 8 Sep 10, 2018
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I was involved with someone with entanglements from a previous relationship. It wasn't so much that he still wanted her, as he wanted to maintain leverage and control in her life. She kept saying she was going to have the problem resolved, but never did and I transferred.

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Yes, a girl I dated in college who was the nicest person I ever met. I didn't realize it at the time.

Bobby9 Level 8 Sep 10, 2018
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There's a beautifully-written section about this very subject by, of all people, Lemmy from Motorhead in his autobiography, in which he talks about a woman he met and fell completely in love with years ago. She left him before the relationship had got very far, but he remained in love with her and to him she became the most perfect person that ever lived because he would always remember her as what he hoped for - though deep down he knew she wasn't, and that had it continued their relationship would not have been as perfect as he dreamed either,

Jnei Level 8 Sep 10, 2018

It's sad how the dream always seems to fade like that.

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