That is a good attitude but for some it is important not to turn people off. Many of us are introverts and can use help fitting in. I live in a super connected community and I like and often need the support from others.

@JackPedigo that's different from getting people to like you. my advice stands: be yourself.

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@genessa IFor you that might work but for some, we need guidance. We live in a society and want to fit in. My first wife was bi-polar. She gave little thought to what people thought including our daughter. I heard many times that one should be able to show their emotions and too bad what others thought.

@JackPedigo well, that's not what i mean by be yourself, unless you're bipolar too. if you have normal control over your conduct, just don't pretend to be who you're not, and don't pretend not to be who you are. that doesn't mean you have to shout out "you're ugly" whenever you see an unattractive person. that's not the same thing. as for the "some" for whom it works, what do you mean that "we," as opposed to the "some," live in a society? everyone does! and you don't have to fit in to the extent that you're not even you. what you heard about showing your emotions and too bad about others is NOT what being yourself means. there is an in-between, you know!

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@genessa Thanks for the critique. I think we agree but are circling about details. Sometimes there are communication issues like the"we" versus "some". To me sometimes the we and some can be mutually inclusive.
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