How are you? Still kicking?

...'nough to drive one nuts. Alcoholism is genetic. When a human drinks alcohol, the body manufactures gabba (sp.) to assimilate the alcohol. Some humans (for some reason American Indians are more prone to having this condition) produce more than is required, leaving that person with a physiological urge to drink. Simple. We've all seen people who after a few drinks will not stop. Such people cannot drink. He may be un-aware of (or simply not care about) this. A drunk is still a pain in the ass.

You are being frozen by anger, but I found a way to get rid of the ptsd and negative emotion associated with toxic exes.

I borrowed from hypnotherapy but just cut to the chase, or the "active ingrdients."

I allow myself to relax and get into a meditative state. Then I spend some time picturing the person or traumatic events as they SHOULD have happened..my ex as a loving, supportive, healthy person and our family spending our lives in happiness.

When I "wake up" from the meditation state, the negative emotions will have been replaced with positive emotions associated with the replacement "memory."

I know intellectually what really happened, but the emotional anger and shame surrounding it is gone..permanently.

Once free of crippling resentment, you will be able to calmly find solutions for both of you.

By the way, if your ex is open to it, CBD oil, found in most health food stores, has been found to cure addictions of all kinds, including alcohol.

"One week of treatment with a non-psychoactive marijuana compound could help drug addicts and alcoholics from relapsing for months, a new study found.

Researchers gave cannabidiol (CBD oil) to rats that consumed either alcohol or cocaine every day. The animals received a daily treatment of the CBD in gel form for a single week, according to the study published in the journal Neuropsychopharmacology.

The CBD helped the critters consume less alcohol or cocaine, even when they were put into anxiety-inducing situations that might push them to take more. And the rats that had the gel applied to their skin were also less anxious and less impulsive, the study says."

Link: [kansascity.com]

I am not one to say don't be bitter-my ex has mental health issues that result in him being a self centered ass. I have issues with getting my kid home from school which my unemployed ex could fix, but he chooses to make my life and my kid's life hectic and uncertain by not providing such easy help. All I can say is, it is right to be mad at him because you are disappointed in him. He is messing with his kid's life. But bitter eats at you, more than him, so I'd try to just be mad and find solutions to the problem he created. Once you get to a more stable time, you can examine if bitter is where you want to land (I would personally choose to rise above and let him eat my dust, but that is hard to do). But for now, more power to you! I am rooting for you and your kid. If we weren't hundreds of miles apart, I'd try to help more. I really hope you and kid can land on your feet soon.

It's hard not to be angry when his actions are negatively impacting your child. I don't even know this loser and I am angry at him!