You are being frozen by anger, but I found a way to get rid of the ptsd and negative emotion associated with toxic exes.

I borrowed from hypnotherapy but just cut to the chase, or the "active ingrdients."

I allow myself to relax and get into a meditative state. Then I spend some time picturing the person or traumatic events as they SHOULD have happened..my ex as a loving, supportive, healthy person and our family spending our lives in happiness.

When I "wake up" from the meditation state, the negative emotions will have been replaced with positive emotions associated with the replacement "memory."

I know intellectually what really happened, but the emotional anger and shame surrounding it is gone..permanently.

Once free of crippling resentment, you will be able to calmly find solutions for both of you.

By the way, if your ex is open to it, CBD oil, found in most health food stores, has been found to cure addictions of all kinds, including alcohol.

"One week of treatment with a non-psychoactive marijuana compound could help drug addicts and alcoholics from relapsing for months, a new study found.

Researchers gave cannabidiol (CBD oil) to rats that consumed either alcohol or cocaine every day. The animals received a daily treatment of the CBD in gel form for a single week, according to the study published in the journal Neuropsychopharmacology.

The CBD helped the critters consume less alcohol or cocaine, even when they were put into anxiety-inducing situations that might push them to take more. And the rats that had the gel applied to their skin were also less anxious and less impulsive, the study says."

Link: [kansascity.com]