Would you date a person with a terminal illness?
As someone with a terminal illness this is a topic that regularly comes up in support groups, and therapy sessions. Is even a point in trying to date after you've been diagnosed? Even if, like me, you are currently stable. I'm wondering if there is a social stigma about it, or if I'm just imagining that there is one in order to self-sabotage myself?
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I would. Sometimes you just click with someone out of nowhere. I'd feel worse if I had feelings for someone I thought were mutually and never expressed my feelings to them because I was sacred of loss.
JakeGronie
Level 4
Nov 2, 2017
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I think I would, but, it would be a very difficult thing to handle knowing that a person you like, enjoy being with and would like to take a relationship further with is going to leave you. The closer I grew to the person the more I would grieve knowing I was going to lose them. It is a natural tendency for people to pull away from someone that they know is going to die. In the end though it comes down to this; love is always worth the risk that you will lose someone, so, I would take that risk of knowing my heart will be broken.
HeathenFarmer
Level 8
Oct 24, 2017
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Nope but I would befriend one or more.
SamL
Level 7
Oct 22, 2017
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Thank you for your honesty.
I myself once had had leukemia. From experience I know that most persons who are that ill just don't have the energy to "date."
However, if they were up for it, I might, if we enjoyed the same interests.
snytiger6
Level 9
Oct 22, 2017
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During my treatment and immediately after the thought of dating was repulsive, and I viewed it as a very selfish thing that I would be doing to someone. But I've been in remission for over a year now, and my scans have been good. That makes that part of me that I'd shut down for so long, want to turn back on. I joined this site not primarily for dating, but to find like-minded people and possibly some new friends. If I happened to connect to a particular person I'm willing to see where it could go. Either way I would be completely honest with that person.
For me, it's not a stigma thing. I don't give a rat's ass what people think. However, I've already buried one husband. I am not sure that I can walk that particular road twice.
Zster
Level 8
Oct 22, 2017
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My condolences for your loss.
I don't think that it is the sort of thing that you would announce front and centre when introduced, and if I had had a date with someone who turned out to have a terminal illness I would probably be drawn somewhat to their courage in dealing with their situation.
Squirrellglider
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Oct 22, 2017
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