"Did you miss me?" I asked merrily. A man of few words, whom I have dated on-and-off for three years, stopped by.
Inevitably, I get frustrated by his poor communication skills and break it off. He is unable to talk about his feelings.
"When you are gone, there is a hole in my life, and a hole in my heart," he replied.
That was poetic. I don't want to read too much into his words. Some may guess he loves me. I assume he's lonely.
His actions do not show that he cares about me. He often disappears for weeks on fishing trips, and doesn't call or reply to my texts. Radio silence. That feels awful.
That's the trouble with men who can't express their feelings. You're left guessing.
Why do I keep trying? I have a high libido and he is an extraordinary lover.
"This is against my better judgment," I said with a grin, crawling on top of him naked. He laughed. Then all hell broke loose.
I have never had any problem expressing my feelings.... Only how those expressions are received/perceived. It is something that I continue to work on. It is easy for me to express positive feelings and have them come across effectively. But I need to put more thought sometimes into how I express myself negatively. (IE, the current political climate.) With negative emotion... I tend to just spit out what is on my mind. Not always a good thing.
Something to think about... Sometimes it is not that a man cannot express his feelings. The problem is he doesn't LISTEN so he is not sure what his feelings should be or how to express them.
I am in sales so whenever I do a presentation or sales training I always use "checkbacks" to make sure I am being understood and they are hearing what I am saying and that they understand its meaning.
If there is a hole in his heart , he needs to see a cardiologist . If he loves a woman , he sees that woman . He has the agony to make sure nobody else sees that woman . He is present . He is in her life . Rest ma'am is for the birds . That's the only way I understand love between a man and a woman .
I have noticed thou , and even if not a mother , women say to litle boys " don't cry . Be a man ". Or men say to litle boys " girls talk , u r a boy , u don't need that drama " etc .
Until we , the women , the mother , teach our litle boys to be comftable in their own skin and their emotions and words , .. we may contribute to grown up men of " litle words " and no " emotions showing ".
The same goes for women, you're left guessing. Of course women are much better at expressing their feelings than men; some hide their feelings when talking to men.
I think women have a richer set of feelings than men. I hear women talking about aromas and colors in terms that are challenging for me to understand; I know, aromas and colors are not feelings. However, feelings are sensed just as aromas and colors, so they are similar in that regard.