I hope all are patient, as I learn to maneuver properly.
Not so much a question, but a statement. I was involved in fundamentalism for many years, and heard, those that don't know Christ, don't know peace when it comes to death. I lost both my parents after I freed myself from the cage I was in.
I spent the evening with a friend, we both talked about losing our parents. She, still feels so much pain, she is liberal, but with Christian beliefs.
I came home and wrote about something that continues to make me feel good about my dad, his life. When I write it, people respond with, "I understand your pain."
I don't believe they understand, this is my comfort, I love who my dad was, people loved him. How can that leave me with pain. Anyway, this is my memory, that helps me deal with death. FYI.. I still talk to him daily..
Spending the evening with a friend, we have both lost parents, and spent time reflecting on our loss.
I typically look towards something positive with this loss, I am fortunate, with Daddy, it’s always so easy to find the positive.
With so much hate and division, I think continually back at a moment as my Dad lay dying in Hospice. I was privileged to be witness to a rare and genuine love.
Years ago, when Dad was still working, he became acquainted with a person that would become more then a dear friend. Willie, a former WW2 Nazi Soldier had moved with his Canadian wife to my home town. My Dad, a WW2 veteran and Willie became more then friends.
When I was sitting in Hospice with my Dad, Willie, an ex-Nazi soldier, leaned over my Dad, a WW2 American soldier, gave my Dad a gentle kiss on his forehead, and said, “goodbye my brother, I’ll always love you.”
That vision of love and respect lingers in my memories.
Willie gave the toast at Daddy’s wake, he doesn’t know this, but his love for my Dad makes my heart warm, and brings me to tears. These two wonderful men had a rare love and respect, something lacking in families and friends. I know I am fortunate to have this wonderful example of the essence of humanity and respect.