The human animal has too many physical needs for most LDR to work unless they agree to have an open relationship so that sexual needs can be taken care of locally.

Distance can be a problem. The heart knows what it wants. Yield to your heart.

Gee Sonder, I think we are in a long distance relationship and it is going great. But a romantic one? Depends on the long term. You have to see someone some time, right?

I agree completely. Having a long-distance relationship seems to me to be setting one's self up for failure. With over 7 million people in the Dallas-Fort Worth area it seems crazy to have to go somewhere else. Then again I consider the far sides of Dallas and beyond ( Plano, McKinney Etc.) to be long distance.

In my opinion they suck, plain and simple.

I believe it is worth exploring. I will give it a go first hand and report back with my findings. hee hee

I guess it could but by nature, it can't stay that way.

While they can work out, they generally don't. It also depends on what kind of relationship you want. If you want an intimate physical relationship, proximity is a requirement. So look local or be willing to move or support someone else moving. Moving has its own dangers on both sides.

Hi there, big fan of your posts. I wish it could be said that LDR,s were possible. Unless one party moves to be with the other it becomes an emotional mine field, trust, monogamy, become cornerstones that eventually crush the relationship. that feelin* that “ if only I’d been there “ such an incident hypothetical wouldn’t of happened. . Kind of thoughts eat at you. So no not a good idea.

I don't think they work unless there is a plan in place to live closer.

The do work out. But they are a lot of work.
(Granted, every relationship is)
But if both people want it to work and work towards it. It can work out. Providing the endgame in the LDR is that one person moves closer to the other.

Back in 2002, I met a girl in an online community and we hit it off well. We were always talking about various topics. Work, the differences between her city and mine, etc.
Eventually we crossed the bridge of going from friends to BF/GF, and she came down to visit me in Memphis from NYC. The time she was there was amazing and it was in that time frame that I knew that I needed her in my life full time. So eventually I moved to NYC.
We were together from late 2002 to mid 2013.
Our divorce was a peaceful one. Didn't need lawyers or anything. We're still friends to this day and I became friends with her boyfriend who she's been with for... I believe it's been 3 1/2 years.
Funny shit is... They started out as a LDR.

My point is, that it is very much possible if both parties want it to work.

Been in two long distance relationships recently; both failed miserably. The first was the last 2 years of my 13 year long marriage (if that makes sense). We lived together for the first 11 years, then were separated (by 350 miles) for the last 2 years; which is one of the factors that lead to our divorce. The second was purely a physical relationship were we met halfway between where we lived, and only on weekends.

That being said, since I live in The-Middle-of-Nowhere-Oklahoma, I still have hopes that future long distance relationships might work out better.

Three years ago I got back into a relationship with my High School sweetheart who lived about 4 1/2 hours away. I used to drive down and see her on the night before my off day, stay 2 nights and drive back in the mornimg. Eventually we got engaged and got a house tother near her. In hindsight it was a mistake. By up rooting myself and cutting my self off from my community I had put too much pressure on the relationship to work. After a couple years things didn't work out and I just moved back a couple weeks ago, older but no wiser.

I'm not even sure what that means. How long is long distance? What is the initial nature of the relationship? What is the intent? What is each party looking for? How can you be sure you're not being catfished? Maybe, if you're looking for something serious and long-term, it may be an option; but in that case, I would want to meet up ASAP.

They do work out. As long as both people want it to.

I don't entertain them normally, I was in a 2 year relationship with a lady who lived 2 hours away, I had previously known her for 16 years and we were neighbors for 7. I dated a lady 5 hours away for a month or so, she has stayed with me a few times since, she normally visits me for the Australia Day long weekend every year, but I have asked her not to the past 2 years and I have not visited her the last twice I was in her area. Given the distance, I never entertained the idea of a relationship, that and the fact she is a bit young and lacks a decent understanding of commitment.

With professional travelers love can work when home.....but only rich people can afford frequently dating long distances. ....military families are often separated weeks if not many months at a time. ....11 days a month was not enough for my ex and she hated riding in my truck when our baby was small

not if you want to touch and look into their eyes