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Does this sound like love?

So I have this friend, who is in a complicated relationship, yet she cheats on him. She’s been seeing this man, who is also married with two kids, whose wife cheated on him. My friend slept with the married guy more than once while still being in the relationship she’s in that she wants out of, but refuses to leave. She’s asked the man she’s with now to leave, but he refuses to and she thinks after she gets rid of the man she’s with now, she’ll live out her happy ending with the man she had an affair with. They were on a work trip out of town and after they was intimate again, a woman was making a pass at him and he was about to make a pass at her in return when my friend told him she’s not good for him. Shortly after the affair, the guy went and told everyone at his work that he slept with her to everybody and they were all calling her a “whore.” He completely denied the claim by saying someone else started the rumor and just like that, she’s still seeing him, even though he’s still with his wife. Just recently he changed his number but notified my friend to let her know it was changed and she’s reading all of this as he cares about her. I’m confused cause he still haven’t left his wife even though she cheated and he cheated, too, but still kind of stringing her on. My friend has kids with the man she doesn’t want to be with now and he has kids with the woman he’s married to. From what I found out, my friend told the man she’s with now to leave and he still hasn’t and even told her that he isn’t going anywhere, but also her lover’s wife doesn’t appear that she will let him go that easily cause I think the love is still there, regardless of her cheating. It is well possible his wife was just curious and that is why she had that affair. Not that I’m saying that’s right. And he hasn’t really come out and say he was leaving his wife. This is something she told me and assumed. Anyway, I told my friend that if your partner doesn’t want to leave then you either need to notify the police and have them escort him out or you will need to be the one that take your kids and move. She’s convinced this man will leave his wife for her, marry her then live happily ever after, after she leave her currently partner, who she doesn’t want to be with right now just because her lover notified her that his number changed cause she was bragging to me and acting like she was trying to make a point to justify he must care if he let her know his number changed, trying to make it seem like I wasn’t happy for her if it worked out but just warning her. What do you think?

EmeraldJewel 7 Feb 1
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It sounds like all of them are telling lies to each other which will cause it to become intolerable and I think they will all go their separate ways someday. Everybody's looking for honesty in their relationships. I know that is what I'm searching for a person that can tell the truth and express their feelings all the time before problems get big a person that can compromise and resolve problems with a good ending is so important. We always need to consider the other person and try to understand their thinking and what is upsetting them and they need to do the same for you. Many people don't have that ability. We need to learn from our mistakes and figure out what we did wrong. Nobody wants to admit they're wrong it is very difficult in many situations neither party is wrong we just look at the problem differently. I wish I was good at writing because I have trouble putting my feelings and thoughts to words.

dc65 Level 7 Feb 1, 2018
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If you need to ask?

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No it doesn't sound like love. More like a var crash waiting to happen

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Stupid is as stupid hoes do... is that appropriate here? I have a hard time knowing when telling the truth is a mistake...

My favorite line from a favorite one of my favorite movies.

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Patrice O'Neal.

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