I must be a strange guy. I've never had a one night stand and I'm not likely to start, now.

Both are insanely difficult.

A one night stand is super easy to find for any female, if that's what she wants. Even for an old gal like me, there are lots of precautions I take to avoid the "wolves" out there waiting to pounce on any female they can at the local night spots. Glad to have several people I can count on to look after me when I'm in the bar alone.

A longer term relationship would be easy to find with an unsuitable person, but the near-impossible challenge is to find someone suitable. There lies the problem. The older I get the pickier I get. Would rather be alone than settle for a relationship that doesn't enhance my life, rather than take away. Always worth a try though and is worthy of hope!

Back in the 70's and early 80's one night stands could have happened regularly I just chose not to go there. By the mid 80's things were getting scary bc of aids and many heteos thought they were 'safe'. Lack of education about STD's and sex has resulted in a lot of unnecessary heartache.

Not really in the market for one night stands as my standards (must not be a delusional theists and or Republican) applies to all as a base rubric for anyone potentially worthy of intimate contact. Because I live in the middle of a theistic/Republican wasteland, my (social life) is, with the light weight polite discussions of benign (not intimate) topics in these pages, highly encumbered. Do I think it would be easier to find a one-night stand then real relationship? If I lowered my standards to accept theists as a one-night stand, Yes. However, I have no intention to lower my standards.

It's not difficult to find a horny male.... I never had a one night stand... Don't really want to either...

Haven't tried either, but both seem difficult. In fact, one night stand seems harder.

I married my last one night stand.. a least it was supposed to be.

If, after "one night stand" , you add the word "safely" , to me neither one is particularly easy.

I was going to say that, for women so inclined, it is easy, but then I remembered about 30 years ago, one middle-aged woman was going from table to table desperately trying to pick up a man. She hit on every accessible male, whether they were with a woman or not. It was both comic and tragic. She would even suck on guys fingers. Eventually, she picked up a younger guy who was drunk. And, off they went.

A relationship is not only hard to start, but hard to maintain. By any standard, a one night stand is easier.

All I have to do is walk into a bar, and men are all over me. Since I don't drink alcohol, bars are not my milieu.

The last time I went to a bar was to watch my alma maters in the Rose Bowl (Univ. of Washington vs. Univ. of Michigan). Immediately, a man grabbed me despite my protests, took away my drink "to improve it" and wouldn't leave me alone.

While he was gone, a nice, older couple let me sit with them. During the fourth quarter, I Ieft, afraid he would follow me to my car.

I don't do casual sex. Like the majority of women, I want a committed, loving relationship.

um, no. no, it doesn't seem that way at all. neither is easy.

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