I don't pick partners lovers picked me ....we all have our difficulties. ...I have tbi tinnitus conductive hearing loss from all the loud ass A-4, A-7 and F-14 full power afterburner engine take off and landings hundreds if not thousands a day and night. ...war is FUCKING LOUD much louder than the Loggins&Messina music in the movie TopGun shot on my base a decade after my war

All partners are difficult and hard work, especially ourselves.

We can at least heal ourselves to the point that we can be more attracted to people with a less unhealthy degree of what we were familiar with. My second husband was about 1,000 times better than my first. I have learned, healed, and grown more since my second marriage, and can see where I need to make a few more repairs before I even want to try to make a new selection; so if there's a next deep relationship, it should work out well.

Interesting.

So my daughters are finding a hard time finding a right partner because I was/am a Unique type of guy not found everywhere. Okay. Their mother is woking on husband nr 3 so... Cool. gotcha.

This solidifies my theory that I am attracted to stoic men because that's how my parents were/are.

What do you think ?